My Misdiagnosed Miscarriage Story

by Charise Rohm Nulsen

As you may know, I announced my pregnancy recently. The beginning of first trimester was difficult; not only because of constant nausea, but also because I was told that I was definitely having a miscarriage. Since we experienced miscarriage in our pregnancy before Baby, you can imagine that this was quite the emotional roller coaster for us.

Although this is pretty personal, I think it’s important to share this story with others to possibly prevent anyone else from having to go through this.

Here is our story:
We have moved since the time when I was pregnant with Baby, so I made my first pregnancy appointment with a reputable practice of midwives and doctors. Although I had never been to this practice, they are the affiliate practice of the midwives that I saw during my pregnancy with Baby. Although they typically don’t see people till 8 weeks of pregnancy, they didn’t have appointments available at that time, so they made an appointment to see me at 6 weeks.

I immediately liked the midwife (I’ll call her Nancy) that I met with at that first appointment. She seemed kind, knowledgeable, and empathetic. Since I was breastfeeding Baby, I had only had a few periods of varying length, so she wanted to do an ultrasound to date the pregnancy.

I am pretty methodical with dates so I shared the exact dates of my cycle, as well as the date of conception. Nancy still expected to see the baby measuring 6 weeks, although by my calculations, it certainly seemed possible that I was not quite there yet.

During the transvaginal ultrasound, I could immediately tell that Nancy did not like what she was seeing on the screen. She told me that this appeared to be a miscarriage because the fetus was not where it should be as far as development. I felt pretty shaken as I got dressed and prepared to go back in the examining room, but I also felt somewhat unaccepting of the news because I thought I just needed to remind her again about the dates and that maybe I just wasn’t as far along as she expected.

Back in the examining room, I clearly stated my thoughts about the dating over and over again. We looked at a calendar, we went through the range of possible ovulation and implantation dates, and I basically pushed the conversation as far as it could go. I questioned every statement she made, but Nancy felt absolute with her proclamation of miscarriage, so I prepared myself to share the news with my husband and family.

I asked if we could do a beta blood test to measure the HCG levels (pregnancy hormone), and Nancy agreed. I would get blood drawn that day and then repeat the test 48 hours later to measure the rate at which the HCG was doubling. The rule of thumb is that they basically expect HCG levels to double every 48 hours. I held out a bit of hope that the HCG tests would tell a different story than Nancy’s version.

Being the information obsessed person that I am, I researched like crazy over the next couple of days. I still believed, based on my research, that my dating could lead to a pregnancy about a week behind the expected dating if my dates were counted from the furthest ends of potential dates.

After getting the results of my two blood tests, the opportunity for hope seemed pretty grim. Nancy was as empathetic as ever, but she still maintained that we were definitely having a miscarriage. The doubling rate of the HCG was about 126 hours and she wanted it to double every 48 hours. I checked out The BetaBase and learned that something like 5% of healthy pregnancies could still have numbers similar to mine, but Nancy didn’t agree.

I then asked for a third HCG test because Nancy was asking me to decide how I wanted to handle the miscarriage – naturally, medical management, or surgical management. I was thoroughly researching all of these options and couldn’t decide what to do so I thought a third HCG number might make the answer more clear (i.e., if my HCG was going down, I would let things happen naturally). Nancy agreed to let me do a third test as a way to help me decide on miscarriage management.

The results of the third HCG test showed that my numbers were still going up! They were doubling at a rate that was very slightly faster than last time, but they were still nowhere near the 48 hour mark that Nancy hoped for. This did not make sense to me at all, so I asked for another ultrasound at the appointment that we had set to discuss how to proceed with the miscarriage.

Nancy was going away on a two week vacation, so she would not be available for this follow up appointment, but she promised that she would get in touch with me to check on me no matter what when she got back. The doctor that I saw that day stayed in the room with me as the ultrasound technician did the ultrasound. Lo and behold, there on the screen was a baby with a visible beating heartbeat! It was SO amazing!

The doctor said that based on the ultrasound and the dates that I provided, there was now no sign of miscarriage or abnormal pregnancy!

Still, they had me come back for weekly appointments, and for several weeks, I really believe that I was treated as a “miscarriage waiting to happen” rather than a healthy, pregnant woman. Although this was obviously very annoying, all I cared about was that I was having a healthy pregnancy.

The important message that I want to share is that you should always trust your instincts and not be afraid to question and demand additional testing when dealing with medical professionals. I greatly respect medical professionals for their hard work and for the miracles that they perform every day, but it does not mean that they are infallible. If you are told you are having a miscarriage in early pregnancy, make sure you exhaust every possible testing option before you accept this news. Miscarriages are misdiagnosed frequently, and I wonder about how many women out there who do not have insurance opt to not have one or two more ultrasounds because they don’t have the money for extra testing and understandably want to process their grief and move on with dealing with the miscarriage.

We are grateful for our little miracle, and I hope this story might help another mama out there!

Have you ever heard a story about a misdiagnosed miscarriage?

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1 Life As Wife December 6, 2011 at 10:50 am

Good for you for standing up for your body ad baby!! Congrats again!!

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2 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 11:01 am

Thank you!!

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3 Angela (Toucan Scraps) December 6, 2011 at 10:57 am

oh bless you.
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4 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 11:02 am

Thank you, Angela!

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5 Gaby @ Tmuffin December 6, 2011 at 10:58 am

I am crying and have goosebumps at the same time. I can’t believe what you have been through, and thank goodness you are an educated, empowered woman! I can’t believe how many people might have had a surgically-managed “miscarriage” to remove a healthy pregnancy. How are you feeling about Nancy? Have you seen her since the last ultrasound? I would be infuriated, but completely relieved! I’m so glad everything is ok, but I’m so distressed that you had to go through that.
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6 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 11:06 am

Thanks, Gaby!!
I have not seen Nancy again. She never called me to check in after her vacation as she said she would. At some point, I’m either going to email her or leave her a note at the office to share my feelings with her so she can think twice about sharing this kind of news so quickly in early pregnancy again. I’m not thrilled with this practice in general now, but I just haven’t found a better place yet. There is one doctor there that I really like. The funny thing is that I really wanted midwife care again, which is the only reason I am even at this practice, but this doctor is much more “me” than any of the midwives I have met there so far.

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7 Lindsay March 5, 2013 at 4:41 pm

Thank you for sharing this.

I went in for my first appointment yesterday and the doctor didnt see anything but the sac. He immediately jumped to miscarriage. He called me this morning after running my blood work and told me my levels are high enough he should have seen something. But I believe I’m only 4 weeks along and am hoping I have the same outcome. He wants to do a d&c next week. But I’m going to refuse for a little bit longer. I don’t feel like anything is wrong. I’m having normal early pregnancy symptoms. I refuse to believe it for a few more weeks atleast

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8 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 5, 2013 at 8:34 pm

Thank you for sharing your story, too! I’m wishing you the best. It does seem very early to talk D&C. Follow your gut. There is absolutely no harm in waiting as long as you feel is necessary.

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9 Lindsay March 11, 2013 at 5:18 pm

I have an update. I got the news last week that I would miscarry because there was an empty sac.. Went back in today to confirm and to start the process for a D&C and there is a healthy, 6 week 4 day baby growing with a healthy heartbeat!! Thanks for giving me hope!!

10 mamaq October 5, 2013 at 9:13 am

I just wana say tht you have shed some light on my situation i experienced this with my now 13 year old with no explanation and now pregnant again for 3rd time and experiencing this horrible nightmare all over again my hcg numbers keep rising and droppin but initially they were a little off from the average woman. I wish that I could just find out what causes this and what I need to do lost last child 5-27-13 so Im tryna b hopeful

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11 Elen August 28, 2013 at 8:37 am

Really touching story I have just read. Thanks for sharing.
I always try to listen more to my instincts.
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12 OneMommy December 6, 2011 at 11:09 am

I am sorry to hear you had to go through all of that.
I am also glad you knew to have a blood test done; that’s something I never would have thought of. I have experience wrong ultrasounds before… They thought my son might have Down’s and told us the day we found out he was a boy; all our joy was taken. I’ll skip the long story of all the test they took – He was born healthy, with very bent pinkies, that was it.
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13 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 11:16 am

Thank you.
Wow – I’m so sorry you had to go through that wrong ultrasound experience too!! And I’m so glad that they were wrong and that you had a healthy baby boy!

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14 Christy @ Adventures in Mommyhood December 6, 2011 at 11:44 am

oh wow!! I am so glad you questioned it and pushed for more testing and I am happy to hear everything went ok. That breaks my heart to wonder how many women were told they were miscarrying when they really were not and just went with medication/surgical help and could have ended up with a healthy pregnancy otherwise :(
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15 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 11:51 am

Thanks, Christy! I know, it really is heartbreaking to think about those kinds of cases!

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16 Danielle December 6, 2011 at 11:58 am

What an amazing story! I am so sorry you had to go through all that, but it was worth trusting your instincts. Congratulations!

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17 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:36 pm

Thank you, Danielle!

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18 Maria December 6, 2011 at 12:51 pm

I’m sure you found with your research that while the doubling rates should be around 48 hours, as long as 72 hours for doubling is still within the range of normal. I am so glad you waited patiently! Too many doctors go by last menstrual period and don’t accept that a woman’s cycle could really vary from the norm! Not to mention, an early ultrasound can be off on measurements and dates up to a whole week! I am shocked that she would jump the gun on such a small piece of information. I am so sorry that you had to deal with such a Negative Nancy! Congrats on your pregnancy!
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19 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:45 pm

Thanks, Maria! And thank you for sharing all of this good info. It’s so important for women to know about.

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20 Jessica | Cloth Diapering Mama December 6, 2011 at 12:57 pm

so GLAD that the outcome was a healthy pregnancy! I too have felt the treatment of a “miscarriage waiting to happen” and its horrible.

big hugs to you and your little healthy bean!!!!!
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21 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:45 pm

Thank you, my friend! (And I’m sorry you have had to experience that too!)

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22 Erika @NAMAmmaSTE December 6, 2011 at 2:26 pm

I honestly had no idea that miscarriages were misdiagnosed so frequently. I’m definitely going to share your story with everyone I know. I don’t think enough women know that they can ask questions and push for what they want and/or need.

The only experience I have to compare was at about 10 weeks with my first pregnancy and it’s not the same thing by any means. The midwife I saw at one visit (we had to see all of the midwives in the practice) could not find the heart beat with the doppler, which I knew was completely normal before 12 weeks, but she placed her hand on my shoulder and stiffly informed me I may have miscarried. I didn’t really react at all. I knew she was really jumping the gun and I waited for another midwife to come in and check. The midwife who owned the birth center came in and found it in five seconds, so it obviously didn’t go very far.

In any case, you’re so right about going with your instincts. Sometimes that means pushing medical professionals to go beyond what they might routinely do and that’s ok. Doctors are human and make mistakes and you are the customer, just like with any service industry. I’m so, so glad you kept pushing and your healthy pregnancy was allowed to progress! (FYI, my grandmother and cousin are doctors and I have the utmost respect for the medical profession, too)
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23 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:48 pm

Thank you for sharing this post, Erika!

As for your experience, I’m SO glad that another midwife came right in to give you a second opinion! I bet my experience would have been very different if another caregiver would have come in to give her opinion too.

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24 Eve December 6, 2011 at 2:47 pm

WOW, what a scary time! I’m so sorry you had to go through that panic, Charise. It just goes to show that we, as mothers, need to trust our instincts more. It’s ALWAYS best to get a second, third and fourth opinion before accepting a major medical diagnosis like this. I’m so glad you trusted yourself and that you’re new little bun is still baking away, waiting for the day he/she can meet the family! :-) Congrats again!
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25 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:49 pm

Thanks, Eve! And yes, there is certainly nothing better than trusting our instincts!

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26 Sarah @ Parenting God's Children December 6, 2011 at 4:33 pm

Charise! Thank you so much for sharing, I’m sure this was hard to put out, but also healing. I’m also so grateful your precious little bean is ok and that you had enough knowledge to know something was up. <3
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27 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 4:50 pm

Thanks, Sarah!
Yes, it was healing to post this, thank you. <3

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28 MamaP December 6, 2011 at 5:06 pm

My grandchild thanks you for listening to your gut – you’re my hero!

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29 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 5:15 pm

Aww, thanks, MomP! xo

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30 Lisa December 6, 2011 at 5:31 pm

I teared up at this story. I know this is an incredibly personal story for you and Jeff to share but I think it’s wonderful that this could help other pregnant women. It also goes to show that you never truly know what is going on in someone’s life – I of course didn’t know Jeff was going through this at work, and I only hope that I was kind and helpful at that time. Thanks for sharing Charise, praying for another healthy, beautiful baby!

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31 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 6, 2011 at 5:34 pm

Aww, thank you, Lisa!!

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32 Cindy@Dental Blog December 6, 2011 at 5:43 pm

thanksfor your word and for sharing you personal story! i love your story so much… it gives me and other hopeless people to find that hope again, the light at the end of that dark tunnel, to catch the good things in a mad world. very impressive

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33 JDaniel4's Mom December 7, 2011 at 3:29 pm

I am so glad you knew what you believed and stood up for it.
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34 Amy ~ Eat. Live. Laugh. Shop. December 8, 2011 at 12:05 pm

I’m so glad the story had a happy ending, despite the emotional roller coaster which precipitated the happy news. It is a gift to share such a personal story. Someone will read this and it will be exactly what she needs to hear.
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35 The Damsel in Dis Dress December 8, 2011 at 3:26 pm

Wow! I am amazed and touched deeply by your story. Thanks so much for sharing, and for being strong. I cringe to think what might have happened.
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36 Michelle December 9, 2011 at 2:01 pm

What an awful thing to have to endure. mama instincts are super strong and good thing you listened ! I agree that we do have to advocate for ourselves, ask questions, seek options and alternatives and not be afraid to ask for a second opinion!
I am so happy for you and your whole family. Continue to feel well and stay strong! Xo

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37 Melissa December 10, 2011 at 6:07 pm

Thank you for being brave enough to share this story, Charise. I’m so grateful for the expertise that medical professionals can provide, but there is always the possibility of a misdiagnosis and this case the results could be so very painful. Thank goodness you trusted yourself and exhausted all of your options! I am so happy for you, and so grateful for the awareness you’re bringing to this important issue.

My mom had a misdiagnosed miscarriage with my older sister, and I’m so grateful she trusted herself because I can’t imagine life without my confidant.
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38 Kristl Story December 11, 2011 at 10:50 pm

I have never heard of a misdiagnosed miscarriage, but kudos to you for your persistence with the doctors and for sharing such a personal story!
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39 Kate December 15, 2011 at 12:14 am

Thank you for reminding us that we have to be our own medical advocates more than ever now. Your story will help many. Congratulations on your pregnancy and all the best in the future.

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40 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama December 16, 2011 at 12:17 pm

Thank you so much, Kate!

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41 stacy h December 16, 2011 at 3:01 pm

i had a true blighted ovum my body carried for 12.5 weeks before naturally miscarrying. the doctors were pushing pills or d/c(this was only my second pregnancy and i knew the risk of the d/c). i kept going back just to make sure. found a lot of comfort in misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com while we waited. the very last dr appt was by far the most interesting. he rather coldly asked me why we were still ‘doing this’. i said because i wanted to be sure. that i could afford to be patient and wait a few days or weeks, rather than wonder the rest of my life if i made a mistake. he kind of sat back then and said, ‘oh. well that makes sense.’ then proceeded to tell me another doctor there he worked with had a misdiagnosed blighted ovum they later discovered was a viable pregnancy(term’d via d/c).

i’m at peace with what happened. thankful for what i learned in the experience. and thankful you had a better ending to your story and can keep spreading the message!

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42 Hopeful momma September 29, 2013 at 12:38 pm

I’m in a similar situation where the dr has confirmed several times both verbally and over email that I will have a 2nd miscarriage. I had 3 ultrasounds the past 3weeks and its been an emotional roller coaster! The first they saw a healthy gestational sac, the 2nd was a gestational sac + yolk sac and the 3rd was the same as the 2nd with only a 3mm growth on the gestational sac. I was asked if I wanted to schedule a DNC but opted for a3rd ultrasound coming up on the 2nd! I’m worried as heck and praying for a miracle. Your stories really give me hope!

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43 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 30, 2013 at 1:53 pm

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Wishing you the best of luck and hoping you get your miracle story too. Please keep us updated.

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44 Charise W. January 2, 2012 at 11:17 am

Unbelievable! I have nearly the exact same story. Although, I was seeing my PCP at the time. Was having some “menstrual” like type pains so she did an ultrasound early to confirm it was not ectopic. My hormone levels indicated pregnancy but my ultrasound “wasn’t where it should be.” She decided to do the whole HCG test and see if it doubles in 48 hours, which mine did not. She stated she believed I would have a miscarriage due to an “an embryonic pregnancy.” She discussed my options of either medication or surgical options but wanted to repeat an ultrasound at 8 weeks. I told her I didn’t want more than 1 ultrasound in a pregnancy and with nausea increasing, I would just wait it out and if I miscarried then it would occur on it’s own. Also, I had wanted a midwife for a home birth and she was not willing to support that decision. So we parted ways and 9 months later gave birth to a beautiful, PERFECT baby girl. I will tell you though, it was the most anxiety producing pregnancy b/c I felt that SOMETHING was going to be wrong with her when she was born. I had to double check her toes, make sure she had two eyes, etc. For a long time I felt maybe there was an alien growing inside me! I am so glad I listened to my God-given instincts to do things naturally. Ironically, I am a RN myself, so I feel like I’m legit in the education department. :) Thanks for sharing – and funny that we’re both named Charise!

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45 Charise @ I Thought I Knew Mama January 3, 2012 at 10:35 am

Wow! Another Charise with the same story! Amazing! I’m so glad to hear you gave birth to a beautiful and perfect little girl after going through this. I look forward to giving birth to my own perfect little girl in May!

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46 Peggy May 10, 2012 at 4:55 pm

Thank you for your courage to share this story! I love the blogosphere!

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47 Jayna August 15, 2012 at 6:59 pm

The story that you told sounded so similar to mine. I was told at my 8 week ultrasound that my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I was devastated I had suffered a miscarriage 3 months prior to that. She told me to go home and think about my options for a D&C or taking the pill. I went through a week of hell depressed, crying couldn’t get out of bed. I went in a week later to get the pill to pass the baby. I demanded another ultrasound before any intervention. Next thing I know I see a heartbeat on the screen and a baby moving around. It was the most amazing moment! The scary thing is they weren’t even going to do an ultrasound, but since I asked for one they agreed. Which meant that I would have taking the pill and aborted my wanted pregnancy! It is scary how often this kind of thing happens. Thanks again for sharing your story!

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48 Christin October 15, 2012 at 9:57 pm

Thanks for this article, it is great to know I am not alone. We were told we were expecting before the July 4th holiday in 2005 and over the holiday our Dr was on vacation as were we. When I had a severe bleed they assumed to be a miscarriage. They told me as long as the bleeding was slowing to just remain on vacation, but if it got worse to head to the local ER there. It slowed and then stopped before we returned home. Dr ran blood test when we returned home, thus confirming blood levels going down, thus diagnosed it as a miscarriage, and said I had likely passed on its own. So left it at that. 4wks later I returned to Dr certain I was pregnant again, to be told nope, not. Then 4wks later same again, NOPE! Then third time 4wks later! YES! ok Dr says test last month could have been to early so at most 6-8wks. Well guess what? not! She felt my abdomen and proclaimed to me that I was 24-25wks!~ No way! Ultrasound an hour later confirmed 24.5wks. WE HAD NOT HAD A MISCARRIAGE! (they claim it likely was twins and we lost one a that point) but I really do not know. My little gal is now almost 7yrs old! And healthy as can be!

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49 Charise Rohm Nulsen October 15, 2012 at 10:02 pm

That is an unbelievable story! I’m so glad to hear your happy ending!

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50 Rachel Ramey October 19, 2012 at 11:56 am

Yes! I have heard other stories almost exactly like yours, where the doctors wanted D & C’s done. :(
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51 elzabeth November 3, 2012 at 10:21 am

my name is Elzabeth, previously I had blighted ovum diagnosed at 13 weeks and gone through MVA procedure in April 2012, it was really terrible. Recently, i become pregnant and checked hcg and confirmed pregnancy, when i check ultrasound at 6 weeks there was only empty gestational sac and the Radiologist written blighted ovum. I was to much disturbed to hear this but decided to wait more rather than having d and C. Later at 10 weeks, on Nov 2, 2012 the fetus was visible. I recommend ladies who have the same case like me not to give up soon.

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52 Charise Rohm Nulsen November 3, 2012 at 10:28 am

Thank you for sharing your story, Elzabeth! There are so many stories out their like ours, and I think it’s so important for women to hear them.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

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53 Krystyna @ Spring Mountain December 5, 2012 at 10:28 am

I had a similar experience & the doctors prescribed me a medication to help expell the contents of my uterus. I demanded an ultrasound & bloodwork (despite their arguments against doing it since I was so early on) & the issues I had were not related to the pregnancy at all. Had I taken their initial advice, I would not have my son.
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54 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 6, 2012 at 7:56 am

Unbelievable! Good for you for following your intuition and taking care of yourself! I’m so glad everything worked out for your precious son.

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55 'Becca December 17, 2012 at 4:13 pm

Thanks for sharing this story! I had a similar diagnosis this past April, although in my case it turned out that the embryo had died. Still, I will always be glad that I questioned what seemed to me to be a very hasty diagnosis and that I waited 12 days to be sure. If I’d had the D&C right away, I’d be repeatedly freaking out about “what if??” for the rest of my life. The second ultrasound made it clear to me, before they said anything, what was going on: My body was still being pregnant–growing a bigger amniotic sac and longer umbilical cord, continuing to produce HCG and make me queasy–but the embryo was dead; it was much too small for the sac and just lying there in a way that looked like a tiny dead body, whereas 12 days earlier it had looked like it might be alive. It was very helpful to see that.

I was in a similar situation of going to a new midwife group (my previous midwife had left town and transferred my records) and I was appalled by their approach. The ultrasound tech said we ought to be seeing a heartbeat (I later learned that at 5 weeks gestation, there is an 11% chance of the heartbeat being undetectable by ultrasound) and she would get a doctor. The doctor walked into the room and immediately said, “I’m sorry for your loss” BEFORE HE SCANNED ME. I was then sent out to the waiting room, filled with pregnant women and babies, to wait half an hour to speak with a midwife. Didn’t they ever think about what a cruel thing that is to do to a woman who’s just been told her baby died?!?! They are a large, hospital-based practice, and to me they seemed very impersonal and medically-oriented, the opposite of what I want in midwife care!

I switched to a freestanding birth center that works with a different hospital, where I had my followup ultrasound and then D&C. They were a lot kinder and more reasonable. I don’t know if I’ll ever have another baby, but I will continue going there for my gyne care.
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56 Alicia January 17, 2013 at 10:13 pm

I had an ultrasound yesterday, and was diagnosed with a missed miscarraige. I was told to go home and wait for a natural miscarraige to happen. I don’t know what to think after reading this. I don’t want to get my hopes up if the fetus really is dead….in my ultrasound, like with yours, she kept comenting on how hard it was to see, becuse of my very tipped uterus. We saw a lump or small mass inside the sack, but no baby and no heartbeat, they measured me to be 6wks, 4 days. I’m not sure how far along I am supposed to be, because of an adnormally long period in Oct. 12′, then I spotted off and on throughout Nov. I took an early pregnancy test, on Dec. 18th and it was postive. I had started feeling nauseous a few days earlier. With my last pregnancy, I felt the nausea around five weeks. Anyways according to the first day of my last period, I should be around 13 weeks, but my best guess is I’m between 8 and 13 weeks. I’m guessing more like 8, but I’m just not sure. We didn’t have sex in Dec, and only three times in Nov. and they were spread out, between the first of the month and the end of the month. ( I know poor hubby!) We were busy in Nov, I was out of town the first part of Dec & then I felt too pregnant and yucky, and have ever since! Good thing he is patient and understanding! I still feel pregnant, very tired, nauseous, and no signs of bleeding or spotting. This is all so confusing! I just wish I knew! I have been on a complete roller coaster ride since the ultrasound yesterday. I won’t have a d&c unless I absolutely have to, but I’m not looking forward to this dragging out for a month or more.

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57 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 18, 2013 at 8:09 am

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this! Thanks for sharing your story. I’ll be thinking of you and wishing you sticky baby vibes. It’s interesting that you have a tipped uterus because I do too. I’ve heard that this can sometimes make it difficult to see things on early ultrasounds. Sending you hugs!

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58 Justyn @ Creative Christian Mama January 20, 2013 at 8:46 pm

I am so glad to hear that they were wrong! Nearly the same thing happened with our second baby. At seven weeks I suddenly started bleeding badly. I went in for an ultrasound and was told that I had an empty gestational sac. The ultrasound doc said to schedule a D&C. The bleeding stopped and I went in to see my regular OB a few days later. He said that they would never do a D&C based on such an early ultrasound and that he would like to wait until nine weeks and check again. I was relieved, because I thought I would have to fight him about it. At nine weeks we could clearly see a perfectly developed little baby with a strong heartbeat! She is now a 13-month-old and is snuggled up against my leg! :-)
Thanks so much for sharing your story!!
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59 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 20, 2013 at 8:51 pm

Wow – I’m so happy to hear your happy ending! It’s scary how many people have similar stories. I’m so thankful that your OB was patient!

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60 karissa January 26, 2013 at 8:00 pm

hi cgarise im so happy to hear that things turned out so well for you , we as mothers dont give ourself enough credit . sometimes we just know things . today i went to the ER because i began spotting a couple days ago . my HCG levels are where they are supposed to be , my sac is a normal size but there is no baby , or a heartbeat .. they dr. said im having a miscarriage . im only 6 weeks so i thought to myself maybe its to early to tell , but then i thought well im bleeding so maybe i am miscarrying . long story short i dont know what to think anymore , i really feel down and out and i really dont have a support system . anyone with sone words of encouragment or thoughts , i really need them thanks.

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61 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 27, 2013 at 2:18 pm

Hi Karissa,

Thanks for sharing your story! You’re in my thoughts. All I can say is that miracles do happen, and if this doesn’t turn out to be your miracle, hang in there because your miracle WILL happen. Hugs!

Stay strong, mama!
Charise

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62 Jennifer Tyler February 4, 2013 at 5:24 pm

Thank you for this testimony… I was told today that I would miscarry.. and that the baby stopped growing and it looks about 7 weeks. They did not hear or see a heartbeat… However, I dont have peace about giving up yet. We are praying for a miracle and will get a second opinion and another sonogram soon. I have been experiencing minor spotting but nothing heavy. I needed to read your story!

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63 Charise Rohm Nulsen February 4, 2013 at 5:56 pm

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this, Jennifer! Sending you lots of sticky baby thoughts. Miracles do happen! Mine is in my arms right now. Hang in there.

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64 Kaydee February 7, 2013 at 11:31 pm

I am going through hell right now. I am supposedly 9 weeks pregnant. Last Saturday I noticed a little spotting. Sunday, I noticed bright red blood so I went to the er. I was there 5 hours. They told me they didn’t see anything at all. The Dr. said I may have had a gestational sac but the ultra sound wasn’t clear. The following day, I went to my obgyn and they repeated the ultrasounds over. They saw a gestational sac but no baby. They took my blood and ordered me to come back Wednesday to repeat my blood. My hcg was 3,799 on Monday. I called today for my Wednesday results and that was 3,988. The nurse stated she’d have the Dr. call me back which he has not but she said that I was most likely miscarrying. I am devastated. I really want to just see my baby. I am still spotting but I am unsure if I am indeed pregnant or not. Idk what to do. My family wants me to wait 2 weeks for another ultrasound but I don’t know if I can bare having a natural miscarriage on my own. I live alone and my child’s father is not able to be with me at all times. Idk what to do.

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65 Charise Rohm Nulsen February 8, 2013 at 7:20 pm

I am so, so sorry to hear you are going through this, Kaydee! I’ve been through actual miscarriage and misdiagnosed miscarriage, and all of the emotions that come with these experiences are pretty unbearable. Just follow your gut as far as how to handle this. You know your body best. If this doesn’t turn out to be your miracle, hang in there. It WILL happen for you. It may not be now, but it will happen. I’ll be thinking of you and sending you love and support.

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66 Kaydee February 8, 2013 at 11:56 pm

Thanks so much. I got a call from my Doctor this am. He urged me to go to the ER to see if the baby was in my tubes. He was worried. I was there about 5 hours. The baby is not in my tubes which is good news however, my gestational sac got a bit smaller which is a good time. Unlike last time, my doctor was more optimistic and asked me to come back in one week to see if anything changes. The lab tech said the gestational sac is just too small to see a baby at this point so I honestly do think I am 5-6 weeks not 9 going on 10. I don’t know why the sac is shrinking that alarms me greatly. I still have no answers. My hcg levels went from 3,988 to 4,600 in 2 days. This is so much on me emotionally. I just started a new job in November, I am going to return to work since I’ve been off all week being an emotional wreck. I just want to move on with my life or expect a healthy pregnancy. I thank you for your comments. I needed them. Are you aware of women with shrinking gestational sacs? I’m hoping the techs made a error measuring the first one. She had a lot of issues with that ultrasound I thought she would have to repeat it for a second.

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67 Charise Rohm Nulsen February 11, 2013 at 10:09 am

Thanks for the update! Do you have any new information? I personally haven’t heard of shrinking gestational sacs, but if you have a retroverted/tipped uterus, as I do, I know for sure that measurements – even by transvaginal ultrasound – can be off. Thinking of you.

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68 Kaydee February 8, 2013 at 11:56 pm

I meant to write about the sac, “which is not good news”.

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69 Amanda February 26, 2013 at 6:40 pm

I just read your story and I’m so thankful that you’ve shared!! I’m 5w 5d pregnant right now and went in for an u/s to make sure it wasn’t ectopic. All that was seen was the gestational sac which is normal for this stage of pregnancy. I ended up getting a call from my dr. saying that it looks like it was going to be a “spontaneous abortion”. I’m one of those people who do not have insurance so I totally know what you mean! However, if there is no bleeding over the next week then I go back in for another u/s. Your story has given me extra hope that just because “they” say it’s so doesn’t necessarily mean it is!

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70 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 3, 2013 at 4:33 pm

Thank you for sharing, Amanda! I’ll be sending lots of sticky thoughts your way!

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71 Kaydee February 27, 2013 at 1:47 pm

Hey all,

I ended up miscarrying on February 10th. It’s still very painful for me to even think about but I’m trying to move forward with life.

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72 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 3, 2013 at 4:32 pm

I am so sorry to hear this, Kaydee! Thank you for sharing with us, and we will be keeping you in our thoughts and sending you big hugs. I know there are no words that are appropriate for this loss, but please know we’re sending support from afar!

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73 Jenna March 28, 2013 at 5:27 pm

Last week I went to the doctor with a positive pregnancy test and some bleeding. The doctor couldn’t find anything in the ultrasound and thought I was probably miscarrying, although he did acknowledge it could just be too soon to see anything or it could be ectopic (I think I was about 4 weeks at that point). My HCG levels fell a little for my 2nd blood test and still nothing on the ultrasound so he diagnosed miscarriage. I started my grieving process and felt I was pretty much starting to come to terms with it.
Well fast forward to this week where slight cramping and spotting started up again so dr ordered another HCG and it’s way higher than the last one! He says its still not as high as it should be, but I am apparently still pregnant. I feel like I’ve been on a roller coaster. I don’t know if this will end up being a pregnancy I carry to term, and this is my first pregnancy. I have felt pretty much every emotion you can think of this past week. I can’t tell you how surprised I was though to be diagnosed with miscarriage when that isn’t necessarily what is happening.

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74 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 28, 2013 at 5:54 pm

Thanks for sharing your story, Jenna! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been on such a roller coaster. My HCG numbers were absolutely nowhere near where they wanted them to be, but I’ve now got a hungry 9 month old waiting in the high chair for me right now to prove that the numbers didn’t matter too much. Hang in there, and please let us know how you are doing as you have updates. Thinking lots of positive thoughts for you!

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75 Jenna April 2, 2013 at 10:16 pm

I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy. I wound up in the ER yesterday and had emergency surgery. I ended up losing the fallopian tube.
Thanks again for your blog post here. It’s nice to hear your and other women’s stories. I know it’s hard for many women to share these kinds of stories so I really appreciate being able to do that here.

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76 Charise Rohm Nulsen April 3, 2013 at 12:41 pm

Oh, Jenna, my heart goes out to you. I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ll be sending you healing thoughts and wishing you the best.

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77 Kirby April 4, 2013 at 7:18 pm

What a great website with supportive and honest women commenting. On March 11, I was being prepped for a heart procedure (a ventricle ablation, which is a minimally invasive surgery to correct a racing heartbeat), and was sedated in the OR when the surgery was aborted (their poor choice of word) because my blood work came back from the lab that I was six weeks pregnant. Besides being more than slightly disoriented by the sedative, I had just turned 44 the previous day, so to say the least, I was shocked when they told me. I even went as far as asking the surgeon if he was joking! Can you imagine?
I had an u/s three days later at my OB’s office, where I’ve received care through two pregnancies (I have two lovely little girls) and one miscarriage in between, which I had at home, at around seven weeks. It was emotionally difficult, but I experienced some kind of healing in being present for it, and I was also armed with knowledge that what I was experiencing was normal for a miscarriage. It was sad, but not frightening.
At the u/s on March 14th, the tech was already able to pick up a heartbeat (amazing for so early) at dated the pregnancy at 5wk4days. This wasn’t so far off from my own calculations. A week later, I experienced some very slight spotting, which I had with both pregnancies I carried to term. I had no cramps and passed nothing significant, so I didn’t worry. My past experience told me that if I was going to miscarry, I couldn’t do anything about it at this stage (my hormone levels were where they wanted to see them) and worrying would only make me feel worse.
On March 28th I went in for my not-quite-eight-week-check-up, and the tech couldn’t see anything but the gestational sac. Immediately she went to get my OB, who pronounced it was a miscarriage. We went to her office to discuss the different options, including letting a ‘natural miscarriage’ take place. She mentioned it could take weeks.
I know it’s possible I could miscarry, or essentially already have. I’m realistic. But as others have said similarly on this website, I’m glad I’m taking the time to see what happens. As it is, I would be barely eight weeks right now, which is still quite early. And if I’ve miscarried, time will tell. I would be devastated to have read the experience of so many women (there was a study in Great Britain a couple of years ago that found up to 1 of 200 first trimester miscarriage is misdiagnosed, and in fact the pregnancies were viable.) after having a d&c or other medical management to move the process along.
I’m in some peace just trusting my body.
So, thank you to everyone and especially Charise for this encouraging and educational website!
Kirby

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78 Charley cutmore April 17, 2013 at 3:06 pm

I had a blood test done on monday and my hcg levels were 37 today (weds) they are down to 10 ive had no pain or clots but have had some on off light bleeding, im still getting hot flushes and nausea and have a big appetite (not like me atall) the doctor finally said that my pregnancy was not viable but i still feel pregnant. Any ideas as im running out and really dont want this to be the end

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79 Melissa @ Home on Deranged April 23, 2013 at 11:54 am

Thank you for eloquently preaching what I tell people over and over – don’t just take their word for it. Your health is your highest priority, without it, you have nothing else. Question, challenge, debate, but keep pushing until you are satisfied.
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80 Victoria May 7, 2013 at 3:28 pm

I am so glad I found your website! I had a 6 week scan on Friday and was told they are 99% sure I will miscarry. My HCG levels are doubling every 80 hours, and definitely still rising. I am booked to go back to hospital on Friday so they can “manage” my miscarriage. After reading your story I have booked an appointment with my GP to discuss tomorrow am.

Can’t believe they can get it wrong so easily.

Thank you

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81 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 7, 2013 at 9:25 pm

I’ll be thinking of you and sending lots of sticky baby thoughts to you! They really can get it wrong so easily. Don’t give up until you have to. Please keep us updated!

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82 Victoria May 10, 2013 at 7:21 am

Hi Charise,

Well today I had my scan, and they were shocked to find the sac has doubled in size since last week! I have to go back next week as they think by then they will be able to find a heartbeat if the pregnancy is viable.

Victoria

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83 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 10, 2013 at 3:29 pm

Victoria, that is awesome!! I’m so happy to hear this! Thank you for sharing!

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84 Victoria May 17, 2013 at 11:12 am

So today I went back for my 4th scan and the sac has continued to grow, but they can no longer find the foetal pole that they found last week. I was sent away with a phone number to ring when I’ve decided on how I want to manage a miscarriage.

I have a tilted uterus, and have read so many stories about women in the same position being told they have a blighted ovum and go on to have healthy babies. So confused! I’ve booked a private scan tomorrow before I make any decisions.

85 Randi May 12, 2013 at 9:55 pm

Wow, so I am literally going through this right now. After having an ectopic pregnancy two years ago we finally got pregnant, only for the hospital to tell us we are miscarrying because I am 5 weeks pregnant, my hcg levels are not correct for how old the baby is, and they did not see a heart flicker. I was so upset, I know exactly when my lmp was and i sure as hell am not 5w6d prego!!. I had no clue what to expect no idea what to think. I called my nurse the next day and she said that it is possible that whatever the heck they were seeing was inaccuracy in their dates. So here I am 5 days later, waiting over the weekend for my second hcg count, and praying for the best. Guess we will see, but the sad part is when i had an ectopic at that same hospital they told me they saw a sac in my uterus and i would be fine, 2 days later my tube bursted. We know our bodies better than anyone! Never let someone try and tell you different!

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86 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 13, 2013 at 12:40 pm

I’m thinking of you and hoping you wind up with good news! You are absolutely right. No one knows our bodies better than we do!

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87 Luschka May 14, 2013 at 7:22 pm

With Ameli I was told at 5 weeks that I was miscarrying, as I was bleeding. I was told to go home and miscarry in peace. I bled for 20 weeks and spent that time with severe hyperemesis gravidarum and waiting to lose my baby. She is turning 4 this year.

With Aviya I was told I was further along than I was pretty sure I was. By scan dates she was born covered in vernix and pretty pink at 42+5. It’s imperative to know and trust your body!!
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88 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 17, 2013 at 7:36 am

Thanks for sharing your story, Luschka! I’m sure there are many mamas out there who will appreciate it.

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89 Nikki May 17, 2013 at 12:50 am

Hi there,
I have been on an emotional roller coaster this week. Here is my story- i was on bc pill for 7 years and decided to stop preventing this march (2013) so my lmp was march 5 (but this was the period during my last pack of bc pills). The last time i stoppedmtaking the pill i did not have a normal cycle for about 3 months and decided to go back on the pill. This time, i did not get my next period, due at the end of march. So on april 3 i took an at home test and it was negative. I took another test april 15 and positive! I couldnt believe it, my husband and i was thrilled! I went and got a blood test done that night and the results came back the next day, positive. So, now my roller coaster starts, and i need advice (as this is my first pregnancy).
I went in for an u/s on april 22 to see how far along i was (i had no idea considering my weird off the pill cycle) and the u/s just showed a teeny tiny black hole, i assume thats the sac, nothing in it. The ob says it was too early but his “estimate” was that we were 5w6d and so far everything is great. Btw, at this point i have hard hardly any symptoms except exhaustion and being more hungry than normal. In fact i would have never known i was pregnant if i didnt test. So my next appointment came, may 10th. We were excited, thinking maybe we can see a heartbeat! I had the same exhaustion and hunger as before, no bleeding spotting or cramps, im in the clear right? So a new ob (not the same as before) starts the u/s and immediately looks concerned. She says “im afraid this is a miscarriage” WAIT WHAT?? She then says that the baby is only measuring at 6w4d and they cannot detect a heartbeat. She prepares me for my options, medicine to induce miscarriage or d&c. Then schedules me to come back in 10days. I am supposed to go back may 20th.

What do you think? I very well could have been 6w4d ish- now about 7w3d. If i was further wouldnt the april 3 test come back positive? She believes i should have been about 8 weeks (based on the first ob “estimate measurement of my teeny blackhole” but thats an estimate right??? I still have no bleeding spotting or cramping. And i have hardly no symptoms because i didnt from the get go. My breasts have gotten a little more tender since my last u/s though it isnt unbearbale. I just dont know what to think.

Do they normaly see heartbeats at 6 weeks? I have no idea how that works.. I am a nervous wreck waiting for monday the 20th. Sorry for the long post, you seem so positive and i read through everyones comments and i just need advice, i am okay with truthfully bad news, i am totally okay with my body taking care of business if something isnt right, but at this point i am just confused! I have no idea how far i should be, how far i am, if i miscarried, or if baby is okay… Time will tell.

Thank you

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90 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 17, 2013 at 7:39 am

Ugh! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been on such a roller coaster! Since you really have no idea about the dates, I personally would want to wait as long as possible to make sure there is no chance of this being a viable pregnancy before making any decisions. I know it is hard to ride it out, but there is no harm it waiting and seeing, right? There are so many things that can affect whether a heartbeat is seen – the quality of the ultrasound technology at the office, the tilt of your uterus (mine is retroverted which apparently makes early ultrasounds less reliable), a single day as far as dates go… Please keep us updated! We’ll be thinking of you and wishing you the very best!

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91 Nikki May 21, 2013 at 11:26 pm

Update:

Went yesterday for a followuo u/s and there was no change, the fetus was a little easier to spot though. This doctor was a little surprised that the last doctor didnt order blood test to watch my HCG, as was i. So, he ordered me to get blood tests every 2 days. My first test yesterxay said my HCG was 22,000. I dont know much about HCG- your advice is welcome. I go back tomorrow to test again and will update. We also got sent to a high quality ultrasound in the radiology department rather than the ultrasounds done at obgyn department. The u/s tech did her measurements and what not but was not allowed to give any info. Sent the results to radiologist and radiologist gave them to the doctor. The doctor is supposed to call me with results but havent heard tonight. Hopefully tomorrow… Still no bleeding or cramps. Who knows … What does HCG 22,000 tell me if i am supposed to be about 8w (+,-). I am holding hope, but i am also realistic.. Do u think those numbers are low? Will follow up soon :)

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92 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 22, 2013 at 1:46 pm

Thanks for the update, Nikki! I’m very glad to hear they are testing your HCG levels every two days and that they ordered a higher quality ultrasound. I think that when it comes to HCG levels, the actual number is not as important as the doubling time (although in my case, the doubling time could barely be considered in the normal range). A stand along number doesn’t mean much. Hang in there, and let us know what happens!

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93 Nikki May 29, 2013 at 8:35 pm

Update:
My levels were dropping and the new ultrasound showed no heartbeat still. I ended up getting a d&c today. The procedurenwas very easy and hardly any pain. Do you think the next time i get pregnant i will have a succesfull pregnancy? My ob said it wasnt a viable pregnancy and the heart probably never started beating, so that means chromosomal right? I hope, im nervous to try again. Thank u for your help! Hopefully next time goes well!

94 debra May 28, 2013 at 3:43 am

im a gmother an i went with my son an his wife nikki to er she had a normal m/p last month,on 6-1-2013,she started bleeding.the dr seems to say she has had a miscarriage.its been 4 weeks.they have never seen any sac.now her blood levels were only at first 400,then 2 days up tp 980,now drop tp 760.dr says she has a ectopic on her left overie an she could bleed to death in 20 minutes if it pops,they have did 3 u/s ,still see no sac.bleed for 21 days it has stopped now for 3 days overies are closed up.scared to go back cause she has no insurance.she says she fill p/g.also every test at home we have done comes back pos.we need a miracle an advice.she goes back 2moro for b/w an see if it has dropped more.she don’t want to go just let nature take her corse,what advice can anyone give an how far along would she be?sincerely nikki.an gma.

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95 debra May 28, 2013 at 4:10 am

gma an nikki back again.we wanted to let everyone know u have all helped so much.also nikki has a very bad tilted uteruses they said she was borned that way.aso they told her that she could see blood in her uteruses but still no sac.we go to drs on the 29th,if she goes.we really need this to be a baby,we beleive in miracles,also since the dr. told us all this she has been so depressed about the whole thing.we doat least know they can hope fully get pg.nikki is 31 an her husband 38 an tis will be there first baby.a miracle from above.all help needed,nikki angma.

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96 Wendy June 4, 2013 at 2:48 pm

Just want to say congratulation! I’m glad it was a happy ending to your story.
Recently I just got check by my midwife. I told her I was 3 months along, but when they couldnt find the heartbeat, they did an ultrasound. They said the sack was only 7weeks and the baby was 6 weeks. Is that even possible, if so….How can I be 3months preggo and my baby is only 6weeks? (sigh) Please email for any advice you can give me.

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97 Charise Rohm Nulsen June 4, 2013 at 8:54 pm

I’m so sorry, Wendy! Are you absolutely sure about your dates? Either way, there is no harm in getting blood work done and having your HCG levels checked throughout one week to see if the numbers are increasing or decreasing. You could always ask for a second opinion ultrasound as well. You don’t have to rush into accepting any information or making any decisions. Take all the time you need!

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98 jeni June 25, 2013 at 10:48 pm

This is the worst time in my life! I really hope i can get some insight on what i should do? I am a mother of 4 which this is my 5th pregnancy! But only to find out i am considered to have a miscarriage they have done 3 ultrasounds so far first two were only seeing a gestational sac and yolk sac no embryo or heart beat. Yesterday i go to the er and have another ultrasound done and the find 3 yolk sacs but no embryo no heart beat. Im so lost and confused..this is condsidered a blighted ovum but why would 2 more sacs appear? I go for another hcg…im suppose to be 7 weeks 5 days can anyone give advice on what decision i should make?

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99 Michaela July 2, 2013 at 8:30 pm

Same problem happened to me in 2010 was told I was having a silent miscarriage and to go back to early pregnancy unit 7 days after to repeat bloods as they didn’t match up and on ultrasound it was jet a blob with no heartbeat, so I can imagine what u went through that whole week a was in bits expecting to have this miscarriage and wen I went back to early pregnacy unit my blood test results had gone up which indicated I was still pregnant ad then had a very difficult pregnacy however dilived birth to my gawjus baby boy n the 05/03/2011. Glad I can share my experience with some1 else x

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100 samantha August 4, 2013 at 4:35 am

This a a really wonderful site. Yesterday I felt deflated and was going to give up but today I feel a little more positive.
Here’s my story, its a little long sorry!
3 months ago we were told that I had secondary infertility. My ovarian reserve was that of someone who was 55-65. The Doctor told us that even with IVF or IUF there was very little chance of us getting pregnant. We decided that we would not continue with any fertility treatments, living in Egypt we would have to pay for it all, with very little chance of success it seemed pointless. It has taken us a while to come to terms with this news but I can honestly say by the end of June we had accepted it.
July we decided to pack our things and spend the summer snorkeling around the various reefs in Sharm el sheikh. My period (which have always bee regular) should have started on 18th July but there was no signs. We thought nothing of it until 5 days later when I still had not had my period. My Husband said “could you be pregnant” which I replied “no chance remember what the Doctor said and I also have no signs”. But just to please him I did a test. There was the faintest pink line which was almost impossible to see in some lights. So we concluded No not pregnant. 2 days later my husband presented me with another test which I did, this time it had a faint pink line. So on the 26th July we called the doctor who told us to do another test but use only the first morning urine. We did this on the 27th and got a slightly darker pink line so definitely pregnant. We called the doctor back and told her our news she requested that we start to monitor the beta HCG levels and come to see her as soon as we get back. So we did 28/7 beta’s were 222 (very low considering I was supposed to be 5 weeks and 2 days. But still my husband and I were very excited and extremely happy. My husband was that excited he called his mom immediately to tell her. However, all does not end well. We monitored my beta’s values below:
28/7 222 5 weeks 2 days
30/7 1110 5 weeks 4 days
1/8 1963 5 weeks 6 days
3/8 2861 6 weeks 1 day
As you can see they started off doubling but now only double every 4 days. We still felt happy because they were still going up and thought everything would be fine.
Yesterday 3/8 we returned to see the doctor and showed her the numbers. She said they are not at all promising. She did a transvaginal ultrasound. After a short time she said she could not find anything at all. No baby, No sac nothing. She said that she thinks this is a miscarriage/blighted ovum, because beta values above 2000 always show at least a sac at 6 weeks.
After a long discussion she said we have a few options to consider. I decided that I would like to wait and see if nature takes its cause. She asked us to do more bloods, one in two days and the other in four days, as these will give an indication to when the bleeding will start. She asked us to return in two weeks if I have not miscarried because there was a risk of infection.
After reading around the internet last night I felt really sad in fact I cried all night. It seems that the general rule is that at 6 weeks a fetus and heartbeat should be seen. However, after not sleeping at all I decided to do one last search and then call her for the tablets or D+C rather than prolong the pain. Fortunately on my last search I found this site which has given me a little hope.
I am not sure if I have a missed miscarriage/blighted ovum I am kind of hoping that like so many others on here the doctor is wrong.
The last 4 months have been a rollercoaster in and out of hell. Seems we are on another downward slide. I will inform you tomorrow what the bloods say – i am praying for good news.

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101 Charise Rohm Nulsen August 4, 2013 at 8:02 pm

I am so sorry to hear you have had such a difficult time. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Your situation sounds extremely similar to that of one of my best friends. She was even turned away from a very reputable fertility clinic because they believed she had so little chance of conceiving. Well, she has now conceived two children completely naturally!

As for the potential miscarriage, I know how hard this period of unknowing is, and my heart goes out to you. There is nothing at all wrong with waiting to see what happens. You can wait till your HCG numbers actually start going down so that you can feel confident in knowing you are taking the right steps. I know it is emotionally taxing to wait, but you have the right to see what happens if you want to. I know that I’m glad to have waited because I now have a beautiful 14 month old girl to show for it. I also know that this is not going to be the case for everyone, but it is your body and you should not hesitate to do whatever is best for you regardless of what the doctors may encourage.

I look forward to hearing an update from you!

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102 Chelsea D. August 25, 2013 at 2:50 pm

I know this post is pretty old but I googled misdiagnosed miscarriage to see what others have experienced. I went in four weeks ago for my first check up this pregnancy and the DR (who i’ve never met before) gave me a transvaginal ultrasound and said he couldn’t see anything. He gave me an appointment one week later saying he could see a sac but nothing in it. Week two came and I got the transvaginal ultrasound and again the tech said she could see nothing and they would be seeing me in one week. Last week I came in and the tech said the same thing. I must be having a miscarriage or will have one soon because they see nothing. She left the room only to come back an tell me to check in to the front desk again and wait for a 2nd appointment. Finally an hour later, I sit in another DRs office, again who I have never met to be told, ” You are pregnant but will not have a baby out of this. You have three options. First is to wait for it to happen naturally. Second, there are pills that you place in your vagina and in 24 hrs have a miscarriage and Third, surgery to scrape out your womb. But again, you will not have a baby out of this. There is also a possibility of a Molar Pregnancy and if not dealt correctly will result in cancer.” ……… I just sat there politely listening and responding but just remember being so perturbed. I called my boss and she had told me to stay home an additional four days to deal with this. (I had just recently had a miscarriage on Mother’s Day 2013.) Today is my last day off before I go back to work and nothing has happened. I know it’s only been a week since that diagnosis but in my heart I feel like they spoke too soon. I don’t know. I just feel so helpless. Not once did they take any samples to test my hcg levels and I don’t understand why.

Hoping and praying for a miracle…

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103 Charise Rohm Nulsen August 25, 2013 at 4:17 pm

I’m so sorry, Chelsea! The lack of compassion you have experienced just disgusts me. You have every right to demand to have your HCG levels checked. They should be checked every 48 hours. I hope they can do it right away for you because the later it gets into the pregnancy, the less reliable the #s become, but either way, you can see if they are going up or down. Don’t worry about the speed at which they double. My rates were barely even in the normal range, but they can at least tell you if the HCG is going down. If it is, then you can start to consider if this is indeed a miscarriage, but I personally would not feel confident about moving forward without doing that. Good luck and keep us posted!

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104 jennifer August 28, 2013 at 6:06 pm

First off thank u for this post as it has given me so much hope. I had been ttc for almost two years with no success and i was getting worried it was taking so long since i had conceived three times before w/o even trying and now i am 32. On Aug 13 i took a home test and it was pos.! I was overjoyed i had finally conceived!! I have no insurance either but went to er at 8 wks an had u/s only saw the baby and the heartbeat an everything looked great! I assumed seeing the heartbeat and measuring 8 wks that i had nothing to worry about. A week later i started spotting just a little but didnt worry bc i had that twice before and it ended up being nothing. When it contin. for cpl days i called the dr. and went in. My exam the nurse said it looked like the spotting was from my LEEP it was brown no big deal. Then i went for my u/s..the “dr” in training was very inexperienced he tried to do thru my stomach an he was pushing so hard tryin to see the baby i have never had that much pain. He then did t/v and found the baby but no heartbeat..I knew immediately on the screen where i should have seen and heard the hb it wasnt there and i became hysterical! I had never been thru this before i was in total shock. I talked to the nurse she told me all my options and that i had had a missed miscarriage. I am devastated..I immediately started researching and I have decided not to give up. I have another appt. in the morning and I am praying for a miracle. I dont want to go back to the same place but with no insurance i dont have a choice. I just dont feel like i am miscarrying! Please pray for us, my only support is my husband. Thank u again for sharing ur story and all the comments! Much love!

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105 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 2, 2013 at 9:17 pm

You are in our thoughts and prayers!! Please keep us posted!

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106 ellie jones September 4, 2013 at 6:31 am

jennifer my name is ellie and yesterday i had an early scan my baby is measuring 6mm but was also told no heartbeat.after the midwife said im sorry your babys dead i cried my heart out,since then tho i have read so many site saying women had the same and the heartbeat was detectable a week later.i have a scan due on 10th sept so i am now hoping and praying there will be something then.i have no pain no bleeding .i would like to say to you do not give up hope take each day as it comes and be positive.it all i have to hold onto and i hope yu do get some happier news in future. xx

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107 casey September 6, 2013 at 1:59 pm

Hi Charise,

I know your post is from over a year ago but I’m going through the longest miscarriage ever right now and had to post my story here (for some advice, some comforting words and to just let it out).

On Monday, Aug 5th, I took a HPT and got a positive. My LMP was on July 5, so I would have been about 4 weeks along. On Friday, Aug 9th, I started to bleed (not enough to soak a pad, but enough to be quite alarming). It was a very bright red color as well. I saw an obgyn the next morning on Sat Aug 10th and he told me I’d likely miscarried already given that he could see nothing in my uterus. He also had my betas drawn and it was considered low at 725. Well, the bleeding stopped completely after a few days and I continued to have my beta’s drawn. It went down then rose, but did not double at all, and continued to rise very slowly (went from 725 to 649 to 755 to 875 to 1497 in the span of 4 weeks). In this time period, during the 7th week, a sac finally appeared, during the 8th week, an embryo and yolk also appeared. However, still no fetal pole or heartbeat to be seen. I have been told by two different doctors that this is 100% a non-viable pregnancy as they can tell from the beta numbers and also that there should be a heartbeat by week 8. I haven’t scheduled a D&C because I’ve been holding on to hope that God will still give me a miracle baby.

Reading your story and everyone else’s here has been very comforting. Whether this turns out good or bad, I know I am not alone.

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108 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 6, 2013 at 9:03 pm

I’m so sorry to hear that you have been on the emotional roller coaster! As you know from my story, sometimes miracles do happen, and I really hope you get yours. You have every right to wait this out as long as you want. It’s your body. Nothing bad will happen if you just wait and see and continue to get betas drawn. If your body begins to naturally miscarry, then you have your answer. If not, maybe you get a miracle. I know how hard it is to wait, but if you have any doubt at all, you don’t have to make any choices right now. You can simply wait and hope. I’ll be thinking of you. Please keep us updated!

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109 W. Darling September 7, 2013 at 3:55 pm

Did you ever take a pregnancy test? I had some bleeding for close to 3 days and took a HPT the next week and it came back negative, but still feeling nausea. If I don’t have enough of the hormone to make the test work, wouldn’t my nausea be gone?
Congrats on your pregnancy!!

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110 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 7, 2013 at 8:20 pm

I did take a pregnancy test, and it was positive for sure.
It’s always hard to judge based on nausea alone. Your best bet would be to get a few beta blood draws taken to see if the HCG is going up or down.
And thank you for the congratulations! That pregnancy is now a 15 month old daughter :-)

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111 cassandra evans September 9, 2013 at 6:29 pm

i am about 3-4 weeks and was just told that because my hcg levels did not change much in a 48 hour period that i am losing my baby. IAM HOPEFUL that they r wrong but i am cramping, though i have no signs of bleeding.Your story keeps me thinking positive either way so i think u for that.

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112 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 9, 2013 at 6:52 pm

Thank you for sharing with us. I’m so sorry that you are going through this, but don’t lose faith yet. My HCG numbers were nowhere near what they wanted them to be, and the midwives and doctors had no doubt I was miscarrying. That supposed miscarriage is a wild 15 month old girl running through the kitchen right now. :-) Please keep us posted. I’ll be thinking of you.

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113 sonoD September 10, 2013 at 1:24 am

Im so glad it all worked out for you. Let me just say, all respect to “Nancy”, but I wouldve requested a Ultrasound from a registered Ultrasound Technician, such as myself. This would never have happened had a registered Ultrasound tech done the exam and had a Radiologist go through the exam and make a diagnoses, no guessing by midwives, no disrespect “Nancy”. :)

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114 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 10, 2013 at 7:49 am

Thanks for your comment! An ultrasound technician did do the ultrasounds after the midwife couldn’t find them with the ultrasound herself. I think it was more a matter of the baby not growing at the rate or dates they anticipated. :-)

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115 Tia September 12, 2013 at 4:09 pm

your story is so wonderful. thank you for sharing!!!
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116 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 12, 2013 at 4:11 pm

Thank you ;-) I’m more than elated with the beautiful girl I now have as a result of this story!

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117 Esther September 15, 2013 at 11:49 am

Same thing is happening to me, Dr. Send me to D & C but I say I want to wait one more week, tomorrow I have a 7 weeks ultrasound I hope to see my baby heartbeat…thank you for share you give me a hope.

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118 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 15, 2013 at 10:17 pm

Thinking of you and wishing you the absolute best! I hope you get your miracle!

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119 Esther September 22, 2013 at 2:28 pm

Now Im waiting my miracle in May, last week they find my baby heartbeat and I was so happy but the ultrasound technician stop our happiness saying “is not what I expect to see at this weeks” may baby heartbeat was 85 but when we talk with the Doctor she say wait to the end of this week because can be a days miscalculation, now everything is ok :)
Thank you Charise for you support.

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120 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 22, 2013 at 9:23 pm

I’m so glad to hear everything is okay!! Wishing you all the best!!

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121 Whitney September 24, 2013 at 4:01 pm

You were absolutely right when you decided to share this story–I definately needed to hear it! My first round of HCG levels 14 days ago showed 743 (which meant I was around 5 weeks). I had my first U/S and Consult with my OB yesterday; my U/S was first and the tech said “you must only be about 5 weeks, I can’t really see anything.” I brushed it off thinking that first HCG level was mis-calculated somehow and I really was only 5 weeks along. Then the OB told me the U/S “concerned her” because she “really thought she would have seen more based on my initial labs.” I had my HCG redrawn and per my results today my level is a 17,830! :) You would think that would have made me feel better but ALL I’ve been thinking is “then why is it SO small?” “Am I going to be a Mom or not” UGH! Sooooo here I am on your site finding a quite hope to hang onto and I can’t thank you enough <3 No matter what the outcome is going to be I don't feel guilty about staying excited! You have been such an encouragement. So thank you with my heart~ from Tulsa OK.

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122 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 30, 2013 at 2:00 pm

Hang in there, Whitney! I think everyone has a bit of that doubt when you first find out you are pregnant. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong. It just means that you’re already a mama in your heart and hoping for the best!

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123 Crystal September 26, 2013 at 5:18 pm

i had my my 4th appointment today and i was told i was going to.have a misscarriage im really sad but me and my girlfriend just dont believe it. ive tested positive ive gone to the hospital and i was told there was no baby yet becauze it was too early in the pregnancy. thank you for sharing this story it sure gives me the hope to keep my faith alive.

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124 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 30, 2013 at 1:58 pm

I’m so sorry to hear your news! Don’t give up hope until you are absolutely certain. Sometimes miracles – and mistakes – do happen!

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125 Laura September 27, 2013 at 11:25 am

Thank you for your encouraging story. I just came from my 6 week ultra sound, and my mid-wife found a sac, and a baby smaller than she expected. She told me that it is either too early, or I am going to have a miscarriage, but that she is leaning towards the miscarriage. Of course, my husband and I are both going to be freaking out until our ultra sound next week, but still have hope that the ultrasound tech’s will do a better job at finding him in there.

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126 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 30, 2013 at 1:56 pm

Wishing the best for you! Please keep us updated. It can be so hard to see what’s really there at 6 weeks. Don’t give up hope until you are absolutely certain. You’re in our thoughts!

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127 Laura October 4, 2013 at 9:50 pm

Good news! The baby was there all along; it has a strong little heartbeat and is measuring 7 weeks! It was a rough week, but reading your story helped me not loose hope (even when my midwife brought up a d&c on Monday).

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128 Charise Rohm Nulsen October 6, 2013 at 9:44 pm

I am soooooooo happy to hear this, Laura! Congratulations!!!

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129 Rebecca September 27, 2013 at 10:34 pm

Great to see some great outcomes here! Thank you for sharing :-)
I am currently 8 weeks (+2dys) and had an u/s 2 dys ago and was told there was no heartbeat, just a sac and I should miscarry on my own in the next few days. I did notice last week that my pregnancy symptoms had disappeared which worries me. I was told to go back for another u/s in 10 days. I am very sure of my dates and with no preg symptoms now, I am fearing the worst. Does anyone know if there is any natural remidies I can try to get my body to start the miscarry proces? It is horrible just waiting for it to happen.

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130 Charise Rohm Nulsen September 30, 2013 at 1:55 pm

I’m so sorry you are going through this uncertainty! I don’t know of natural remedies to encourage the miscarriage process unfortunately. Hang in there, and if you are unsure of your dates, you might want to wait until your HCG numbers actually start going down and until multiple ultrasounds confirm miscarriage before moving forward with anything. We’ll be thinking of you!

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131 Crystal October 4, 2013 at 4:00 pm

What were your hcg level numbers, I am going through the same thing?

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132 mamaq October 5, 2013 at 3:19 pm

I just wanna say that you have shed some light on my situation i experienced this with my now 13 year old with no explanation and now pregnant again for 3rd time making this my 4th pregnancy and experiencing this horrible nightmare all over again my hcg numbers keep rising and dropping but initially they were a little off from the average woman. I wish that I could just find out what causes this and what I need to do lost. last child 5-27-13 so Im tryna be hopeful. I haven’t had any blood or pain just discomfort and usual signs of pregnancy. i also got ultrasound oct 3,2013 which showed left ovary with now a cyst with a small opening in which the ultrasound tech believed to be the ovary in which i conceived. and stated that the lining of my uterus was thickening as it should but no sign of gestational sac or embryo. Could it be that I’m just too early to tell. I took at home digital hcg test which stated that i was 2-3 weeks. on oct 4th,2013 I found out I was pregnant sep 28th which was my expected period date. And my boyfriend has been away since sep 10th and I’m dedicated and faithful to him completely. But I”m wondering is this happening because the intercourse is not continuous is the sperm and egg dying off?

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133 mamaq October 9, 2013 at 1:13 am

I know it”s pretty late that your receiving this message but its not intended for response tonight,but i would like to hear from you seeing that you’ve provide so much previous insight and experience.any suggestions yet i’m really stressed losing sleep and hope because all i’m getting is my numbers going up and down and was originally told on sep 29th hcg was 286 told with a hcg of 740 10-7-13 and everything should be ok and 10-8-13 hcg of 459 that i was miscarrying just so hurt because im not bleeding or cramping but did find out that i have uterine coastal fibroids that just appeared with this pregnancy. can this affect my hcg level?
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134 mamaq October 9, 2013 at 8:16 pm

hi charise these messages are from you are you available to respond ?
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135 Cecily October 28, 2013 at 12:51 pm

I am so glad I happened on this blog. I had the same thing with my last daughter in 07. I am older and had her at 35. My first few visits to the doctor, they kept insisting I was going to miscarry and sent me home with Pain meds. Instead I bought prenatal vitamins and wouldn’t lose hope. Her HCG levels just were not where they were supposed to be. I think I just was not as far along as they thought or she was just taking her time to double. I am glad your story turned out as well as mine. My daughter is now 5 and perfectly healthy:)

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136 Charise Rohm Nulsen October 28, 2013 at 1:32 pm

So glad to hear another happy story! Thank you for sharing!

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137 mamaq October 28, 2013 at 2:55 pm

I have great news u/s scan showed sac 5 weeks 4 days Oct 22nd,2013 and fetus 4 weeks 4 days and they saw an additional sac in which i go back Oct 29th to check development on this i’m happy even though i didn’t get the feedback i wanted at the time. So anyone reading this keep your hope alive anything is possible even when no-one gives you answers or hope believe and trust in god! He is amazing and the miracle worker of all things. And also ladies I have no fibroids or any other complications that they thought just discomfort from the growing fetuses.

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138 Jacq November 3, 2013 at 9:35 pm

Thank you for this story! I’m in your spot right now and scared to death the doctors have only done one ultrasound and only want one more before they want my decision but I’m only about 5weeks and my blood test show my levels are going up fr the two test they have done but not as fast as they want! Thank you for sharing I’m going to have a lot more questions now

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139 Betsy December 10, 2013 at 9:11 pm

Hello, I just wanted to know how you were doing? If you have good news? (I hope).

Thanks,
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140 Betsy November 23, 2013 at 2:04 pm

I’ve been doing a lot of online research and it seems like the only answers I will find are the ones that will reveal themselves with time. Your post has given me some hope though!

I just started my 6th week of pregnancy after being told by my doctor I was probably in my 7th week. I went for an transvaginal ultrasound yesterday and was excited because we were able to “see” a heartbeat, but we couldn’t “hear” it yet. I came home feeling pretty happy that I saw a little heart bump flickering on the screen. A couple hours later I got a call from my doctor…

My doctor said the baby’s BMP was 80 and that it was really low so the odds of miscarriage are very high. He also said my gestational sac appeared to be “too thin” and it looked “abnormal”. The next steps would be to get two blood tests and see where my hormone levels are. I got my first blood test done this morning, the next one will be Monday.

Thing is… I feel fine. Other than being tired, I’m not spotting, I’m having cravings, and I feel no pain. I feel like I need to follow my gut on this one. I haven’t said goodbye to my baby yet because my baby is still here, and to be honest, I’m kinda’ angry at my doctor for telling me there’s a big chance I’ll miscarry before even getting the results of my blood work.

I’m frustrated, angry, scared, worried, and STILL trying to keep a positive outlook all at the same time. I think my baby is okay and I think it’s too early for him to make a proper diagnosis. I didn’t want to sit around all weekend wondering if I’m going to have a miscarriage or start to bleed. It’s a horrible feeling and a heavy, heavy burden on my heart and the only thing I can do is pray and wait.

I never understood what women go through with regards to pregnancy until it happened to me, my heart goes out to all of you. I pray my baby is still growing and is viable and I pray we can turn this around!

Betsy

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141 Charise Rohm Nulsen November 26, 2013 at 8:51 pm

Thinking of you, Betsy! Yes, it is amazing what we have to go through to be mamas, but it is all worth it in the end. Trust yourself and your body and don’t give up unless you have truly received enough information to believe it is time to move on.

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142 Rico December 4, 2013 at 11:36 am

We just had an ultra sound done yesterday 12/03/13 and the ultra sound doctor said exactly what was said to you. My wife is devastated because she had a miscarriage two years ago. I was also devastated. Another doctor came in and said that maybe my wife isn’t as far along as she thinks or it is a miscarriage. They said there is a baby in there but the sack looks to be 8 weeks but not the baby which meant possible miscarriage, and that we are to check back with them next week. They said no heart beat was detected. We don’t want to be desperate but then again honestly we are, we really want to have this baby! So hopefully things will come out fine. Thank you for sharing your story it put some hope in me, and my wife.

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143 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 10, 2013 at 10:06 am

Thinking of you and wishing for a happy ending! Don’t give up hope until you are absolutely certain!

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144 Betsy December 10, 2013 at 9:00 pm

Hello, I just wanted to provide an update since my last comment on 11/23.

I’ve had a horrible first pregnancy experience thus far. Just… horrible. I never imagined it would be like this… After 11/23 the spotting got progressively more intense and eventually turned to red blood on the evening of 12/3. It wasn’t a lot and I had tried to admit myself to the ER but they were just too full and I had to be at work at 5 am the next morning so I went back to my hotel room.

Prior to finding the first sign of red blood on 12/3, had three blood draws to test my hcg levels. The results were the following: 11/23: 6,732 – 11/25: 8,209, and 11/29: 10,885. On the morning of 12/4 I bled heavily, like a period, clots and all, but hardly any cramping. This prompted me to go to an ER closer to home.

I was admitted to the ER where they did another blood draw and an ultrasound. The doctor came back with horrible news, I had lost the baby. They couldn’t even find the baby anymore, they said all that was left was an empty, irregular looking gestational sac and that I had most likely passed the baby already. The hcg levels at the time were around 13,000.

Just when you think it would end here and I could finally begin to officially grieve for a confirmed loss, I went in for a follow-up visit with an OBGYNE two days later per the ER doctor’s instructions. On 12/6 I had another blood draw and my hcg levels had increased again. During the exam, the OB said my cervix looked about six weeks and it appeared to show I was having a normal looking period. She said we would keep an eye on the hcg levels and that we should expect them to drop since I had a confirmed miscarriage.

Low and behold, the blood draws on 12/6 and 12/8 show INCREASING hcg levels once again, AND the bleeding has tapered off and appears to be going away. I go in for ANOTHER blood draw tomorrow morning to see if my hcg has leveled off or is increasing.

As of today I am aware I am around 17,000 and climbing. I have no idea what it could mean. The doctor has confirmed it’s not an ectopic pregnancy, or a blighted ovum. She seemed perplexed the last time I spoke with her.

If my hcg is still rising after tomorrow, we will schedule another U/S to see what’s going on in my uterus. My ovaries and the tubes looked totally normal.

I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY BODY. And, I have no pregnancy symptoms. I actually never had morning sickness, just tender breasts for a couple of weeks and that symptom went away prior to seeing my baby’s heartbeat on 11/22.

I feel like there is a remote possibility that my baby has survived the bleeding or that another egg was fertilized a few weeks later when I had intercourse after finding out I was already pregnant. I really don’t know and only tests can lead us in the right direction… My situation is pretty unique – I think? Been doing research online and it just keeps overloading me with worry!

I’m at a loss. Sometimes I make jokes that I’m actually pregnant and my baby decided to implant itself on my butt cheek, you know, to laugh… because I’m tired of crying.

Anyone ever heard of anything like this? I pretty much said goodbye after I had writing in my online journal… but now I’m not so sure… I don’t want to hope because I might get disappointed again.
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145 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 10, 2013 at 9:20 pm

Oh my goodness, Betsy! I am so sorry to hear all that you have been going through! I’ve never heard of anything like this, but I just don’t know how you could possibly give up hope all the way with HCG levels still rising like that. Do you have a tilted uterus which makes it harder to get accurate ultrasounds? Are they using high tech ultrasound technology and doing transvaginal ultrasounds? Please keep us posted! Thinking of you and wishing all the best for you!

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146 Betsy December 28, 2013 at 8:22 pm

Hi Charise,

I don’t have a tilted uterus, but I do have a low pelvic bone. Which apparently makes delivery more challenging according to my primary care physician who used to deliver babies.

Thank you for responding to my posts and keeping up with me. I really appreciate this forum, it’s a nice support network! A great place to share! Detailed update below. Not great news, but every dark cloud has a silver lining.

Betsy
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147 Kym December 14, 2013 at 11:51 am

First I would like to congratulate you on your beautiful successful pregnancy. What a great outcome! I am currently going through the same situation. I have already given birth successfully three times and have three beautiful daughters, ages 15,11 and 5. My husband and I decided we wanted to go for baby four before “closing up shop” , so to speak. Much to,our surprise, we got pregnant right away (first cycle). I was monitoring my ovulation dates very closely and had calculated I would be ovulating between 11/3-11/14. I should have gotten my period on 11/22. Come Sunday, 11/24, I took an at home preg test and low and behold there was a VERY faint line (I actually thought it was negative, but when I went back to check it after a few more minutes, the line had shown up). Very excited, we took 2 more tests. Positive. I decided to call my OB and she recommended I take a test at the doctors office. The urine test came back inconclusive. I told her that it was probably too early for a urine test from the doctor office and asked for a blood test. On 11/28 my HCg level came back at 84. They redid my blood work on 11/30 and it only had gone up to 109. She requested that I take a 3rd test and on 12/2 my levels had gone up to 199. I was definitely not “doubling” as expected. I received a phone call from my doctor and she continued to tell me that I most likely have a blighted ovum and / or ectopic, since my levels were not doubling. She asked if I was cramping or bleeding/spotting to which I replied , no, and she said “Hmmm, interesting.” She then proceeded to tell me that I should probably start thinking about taking a pill to help extract the egg out, to not risk infection. Or that a D&C would need to be done. I told her I would let nature take its course. She told me she wanted me to come in and speak with another doctor about my “loss” and all my “options.”

My husband was devastated when I told him the news. He came home early from work to accompany me at the doctor visit. To my surprise we did not see my regular doctor (she’s a NP at the office I go to.). We were actually seen by an MD. He came in and was extremely optimistic. He asked why we had the long faces. Told us my numbers were not off from doubling too much and that I am most likely wrong about my period dates and my ovulation dates and that I am freshly pregnant. He told us to not doom ourselves just yet, however, we expressed our concerns about what the prior NP had told us. He advised that we would do an ultrasound, however, since my levels had not reached 3000, we would most likely not see anything. He was correct, and we were happy. Nothing in my uterus at 199 means that it still hasn’t implanted and we have a chance. He suggested waiting 7 days before taking our next blood draw and then we would do another US to see what we see.

On 12/10, my levels came back at 3228!! Exciting news!! They were doubling exactly how they should be. He called to say he was happy with the results and to go back on 12/12 for a retest to confirm they were doubling. I KNEW this wouldn’t be the case. I know my body and I have a feeling my levels increase more around every 90+ hours. Results confirmed my feelings. My levels only increased to 3628. Still…it was an increase.

On Friday, 12/13, at 1:30, I received a phone call from the original NP and she told me that I am “plateauing” and will be miscarrying soon. She told me that my levels have just not increased at all how they should be and that I really need to consider my options. She then proceeded to tell me to come in for a an US to confirm the miscarriage. I asked her if I would be having a vaginal IS and she said yes. To which I replied “Great! I can’t wait to see the sac!” She sighed….YES, she SIGHED, and said…”Ok.”

When I arrived at my appt at 1:45, her first words to me were “boy, you got here fast.” Then proceeded to look at my with grim expressions and explained how my levels are bad and there really is no chance. I asked her to do the US and we will confirm what’s going on. By this time, she could tell I was upset with her dismay, and asked to check me. She did an internal exam and noted everything to be fine. When she started the tranvaginal US, she TURNED the monitor away so I couldn’t see it. I sat up a bit and moved my head so I could see the monitor (which she didn’t like). Right away I saw the GS. I was VERY happy! I also saw a fetal pole and knew exactly what I was seeing. I had a smile on my face and she looked at me and was like “Well……there is definitely something in there.” Her voice was very unhappy. I said that’s great news and we are seeing exactly was Dr. S said we would this week. He told me we would see the sac this week with a pole, and the following week we should see the heartbeat. I know we are right in schedule.

She measured the fetal pole (secretly, by the way – I feel like she didn’t want me to see what she was doing) and then printed out the sonogram photos. She told me to sit up and proceeded to tell me – even AFTER a successful US – that I currently have a “normal looking pregnancy” but my numbers suggest otherwise and I really need to think about my options and to tell her the truth about my no cramping / no bleeding issue. I looked at her and said I AM NOT CRAMPING OR BLEEDING. Can we please be positive about this?? She just looked at me with that same grim look, dooming the death of my unborn child.

She suggested that if I start bleeding over this weekend to ” not go to that ER because they couldn’t help me, but to go to the ER 20+ miles away. I told her I would go to the first place I needed to go to IF that happened, but, I know in my heart it’s not going too.

She proceeded to tell me to go get a follow up blood draw today and schedule a follow up US with her next Friday. I told her no. I am done having my blood drawn and I will not be seeing her again. I scheduled an appointment with Dr. S (the MD who is VERY optimistic and excited about my pregnancy) for next Thursday. He will do a follow up US to confirm heartbeat. I am confident my pregnancy is progressing exactly how it should be and that I just happened to find out WAY early in the pregnancy and have to patiently wait week by week.

I believe this NP is upset that I haven’t miscarried yet and is trying everything she can to be correct. I don’t think, by any means, she WANTS it to happen, I just believe she feels wronged and is refusing to accept she was not right (from her first diagnosis on 12/2 that I had a blighted ovum and suggested a “take a pill” to help the process along.

Oh, by the way, I asked her if I could have a copy of the sonogram and she stopped….looked at it…and said…”Ugh, fine. I will make a copy.” She brought back the copy and on the bottom of it, it shows CRL .29cm / GA 5w6d / EDD 8/9/2014 . She did not disclose any of this information to me. Remember she was secretly measuring the fetal pole (the copy of the sonogram shows her measurement (+) markers. Apparently after researching myself, this side (.29cm) is normal and everything is good. Ugh, I honestly feel she just doesn’t want me to have this baby.

Anywho, long story short, I am going through the same issues and, yes, I understand a miscarriage can happen to ANYONE, but to treat me as if I’m doomed from the beginning, is just wrong,

I plan to make a formal complaint to the Hospital about her ASAP. She should not be helping assist women who are trying trying, are, or believe they are, conceive a child. Her Negative Nancy attitude, and her quick judgement to terminate before 8 weeks, is just madly insane. It hurts to know that there is more than 1 person out there like her. How many unnecessary “assisted” miscarriages are done on a yearly basis?? Sickening to think.

I will be sure to follow up next Thursday after our next US. :))

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148 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 14, 2013 at 7:56 pm

I can’t wait to hear your good news next week! And good for you for staying positive despite such a Negative Nancy! You should absolutely lodge a formal complaint though – unbelievable. Thank you for sharing your story!

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149 Kym December 19, 2013 at 1:32 pm

Hi there – just wanted to update you on the results. Sadly, there was no baby found inside the gestational sac today and Dr. S. showed me how there was no blood flow inside the egg with the sonogram machine and also showed how there was nothing inside at all.

He suspects that I will pass the empty egg sac within the next couple of weeks. He wants me to take some follow up blood tests to verify my levels are going down, however, I am not ready for all of that. I would just like nature to take its course.

I am OK with this. It hurts, but, I am ok. As I stated earlier – a miscarriage can happen to ANYONE at any time.

I just DO NOT like the fact that my first doctor doomed me from the get go. When in all reality, the pregnancy was progressing.

Doc says that once I pass the egg, I can immediately start trying again. I find that to be great news!

I will be sure to keep you all posted on the outcome. :)

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150 Betsy December 28, 2013 at 8:28 pm

Hi Kym,

I’m sorry for your loss. I went through this recently. No matter where you are in your pregnancy, it always hurts to lose your baby. I hope 2014 is a better year for us!

All the best,
Betsy
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151 rikki December 16, 2013 at 7:51 pm

Wow,that is so amazing… it really is inspiring. Ive spent all night crying, because ive gone through an emotional rollercoaster myself. I had to travel far to see a specialist a month ago, to be told I cant have children at all. Then, I realised two weeks ago I havent had my period so I did a test, and I was pregnant! I was showing all the signs of a highly hormonal pregnancy, and then I went for my first scan yesterday. I have twins in there! They measured the sac to be 7 weeks or more and I said thats not possible because my last period was only just over a month ago and I clearly remember ovulating because for me it was a new experience with my condition. Theyre sure that the babies are 7 weeks and they couldnt find a heart beat at all. The lady was a trainee, and yet she asked me to get prepared for my loss and I looked her and the eye and said there isnt any loss, but thanks. I went straight to the doctor for a hcg and the results were that my hormone levels are very hogh and reading at about 6 weeks. Im hoping that the measurements just arent meeting the typical measurements that people expect a heart rate on, or that somehow the gear they had just couldnt pick up the beat. I go for another hormonal check tomorrow, and I pray that my twins are going to be okay. I really do. Reading this does help to put my mind at ease though I dont want to give up!

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152 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 17, 2013 at 7:52 am

Wow – you are already experiencing a miracle, and I hope the miracles continue for you! Don’t give up hope until you have absolutely exhausted every test and most importantly given it plenty of time. Please keep us posted!

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153 Taylor Gallimore December 26, 2013 at 10:08 am

Hi, something similar to this has happened to me, but instead of a misdiagnosed miscarriage it seems more like a misdiagnosis! I have taken four at home tests, all great brands. The first two I took was early last week, and they were the plus sign or minus sign tests, both clear blue, and they both came back positive but faint lines.. Then due to my family not beliving me on the up and down line actually being there, I got a digital clearblue test, and it came back positive, clearly read at 3 min and no longer.. After the third confirmation we went ahead and told our families that we were going to be expecting and I was only probably 2 weeks along. I have had very normal periods this year, but in the past have had irregular ones but anywho.. Sunday(12-22-13) I was at work and started bleeding like a period, so they sent me to the ER.. First off, the ER let me sit, with no pad or anything, in the ER waiting room, not in an actual room, for two hours! Then, we get into the actual ER patient room and a nurse comes in reading my info off, then starts reading someone elses info off my chart.. it was alll typed on the same chart… so we had to wait even longer for her to know what she was talking about.. first thing they did was draw blood, later to only come back with a grin on her face stating I am not pregnant and was not ever pregnant according to their lab… She stated her test showed my levels were “too low” to be pregnant… Let me just say I have had a baby before and know to not be pregnant your levels would be ZERO, and she stated they were too low, and I was not miscarrying because I was not and never was pregnant… then we sit there even longer, and my BF goes out to tell them we want to leave since theyre not helping us, and the nurse states, they have to wait until my urine sample comes back for them… -_- This was dumbfounding due to, I had not even given the nurse a urine sample…. So after this incident.. I was sure something weird was going on and I immediately wanted a second opinion.. The nurses kept telling me their lab is not wrong and I was not nor was ever pregnant…Leaving devastated I went straight to walmart got another urine test, this time with weeks estimater, and it stated i was 1-2 weeks… I had already had an appointment at my local health department for the following day and I decided I would go ahead and go for a second opinion… So Monday comes and I arrive at the Dr. and their test also comes back positive.. She gives me prenatals and states to come back on the 2nd of Jan 2014 to see if the test still says pregnant.. I am very confused and I dont know what to think at this point.. Being as the ER told me I never was pregnant, but also didnt state my levels were ZERO makes NO sense….. How can your levels be low but not zero and not be pregnant.. I understand they can lower or double within a matter of days, but this ER nurse just didnt even seem to realize of course my levels are going to be low, I am only 2 weeks.. I owuld like just a little hope that something positive may still come out of this. My bleeding has dramicly slowed down since Sunday and it is only Thursday and my next appt is not until next Thursday. I really do not understand what is going on with me:(

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154 Jennifer December 27, 2013 at 8:34 pm

Thanks so much to everyone who has shared her story here. I feel like all I’ve been doing the past week is googling, trying to get as much information as possible about Hcg levels and possible miscarriages. I am so grateful to have come across this site and read your stories, both happy and sad. It’s helped me to feel a little less alone. Here’s what’s happening with me.
Positive hpt 2 days after missed period on 12/4/13. Very faint line but a line is a line! First dr appt was on 12/20. Should have been 6 wks 3 days. Dr did u/s and saw the sac and thickened lining in uterus but nothing else. Told me we would monitor my hcg levels but to prepare for a miscarriage. I was obviously so disappointed. My first hcg levels came back at 2384. Very low but maybe I was early or just have low hcgs. Retested 2 days later and hcg was 3400. Increased but not doubled. Dr called with the results and again to me to prepare for a miscarriage. That was on Monday 12/23. It’s now 12/27 and no miscarriage yet. No bleeding or spotting. Some cramping but not painful. Still have sore boobs, slight nausea but not like my first pregnancy with my now 8 yr old daughter. Going back on Monday to have levels checked again, but for now in this waiting limbo. Am I pregnant? Am
I about to miscarry? I just want to know so I can prepare emotionally. And so while I wait, I’ll keep googling. Thanks again to all of you brave amazing women.

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155 Betsy December 28, 2013 at 8:15 pm

Hello Everyone,

Here is another follow-up post to my Dec 10th post. I just wanted to update and share with the group.

I had another blood draw done on 12/11 which indicated my hormone levels were still rising. My hCG levels had gone up to almost 30,000. They hadn’t been doubling, per textbook standards and after my ER visit that confirmed an empty gestational sac, my OB GYNE wanted to schedule a D&C as soon as possible to avoid infection. I informed her that before we do a D&C, I wanted another ultrasound to make sure I wasn’t destroying anything that could potentially be a viable fetus. Since my hCG levels were still rising, I wanted to be absolutely certain. She was reluctant to agree with me but she did schedule the priority U/S per my wishes.

At my final U/S, I had a very kind tech who shared all the details with me. Before we even started, I shared with her that previous doctors confirmed that I had lost the baby but that my levels kept rising. I explained to her that I was prepared for bad news and not to feel bad about sharing the gritty details of what we were going to see in my uterus, if in fact there was nothing. I added that if there was any chance I could miscarry naturally, I would rather do that than do a D&C.

The final U/S revealed my abnormal gestational sac that had gotten bigger and moved up higher in my uterus. The implantation was no longer in a position considered to be low, but the sac was still abnormal looking. The tech probed and very thoroughly scanned every inch of my uterus. She shared the screen with me and I was absolutely sure that the tissue left over was evidence of what used to be a growing baby with a beating heart some time ago. I could finally say goodbye once and for all.

I know what I saw at barely 6 weeks, a little flickering bump… and now, for sure, it was just left-over tissue that my body still hadn’t expelled. That explained why my hCG levels were still rising. My body still hadn’t let it go, for all intensive purposes I was still pregnant.

Anyway, after the U/S was over, my doctor had an opportunity to review the images and said I had a blighted ovum. I didn’t argue with her but I know she was wrong because I saw my embryo at barely 6 weeks during my very first scan. I knew for sure my baby died at some point, but since the doctor didn’t see those previous scans, she assumed there was never an embryo. Anyway, I never bothered to explain it to her. As it stood on that day, it was a blighted ovum and my body wasn’t naturally miscarrying. My doctor insisted that we do a D&C but I said I wanted to wait one more week. One more week to let my body do what it needs to do, maybe I just needed more time.

My doctor wanted to schedule a D&C asap, she was concerned and wanted to be safe. I wanted to wait. I didn’t feel I was a risk for an infection and everything was happening so fast, maybe my body just needed some time. I begged her to wait a week and she, again very reluctantly agreed to my request. She was simply doing what any good doctor would do, and that’s looking out for their patients well-being.

I was right to wait and this why I say to follow your gut instinct. My story doesn’t end with a baby, for now.

On Friday, December 13th around 1 AM, I felt strange. I was tingly all over and warm, and I felt as though I was having some acid reflux. I had no idea what was going on, I thought to myself that I might have caught the flu or something. I started to notice a very uncomfortable sensation around my vaginal area, an unfamiliar, uncomfortable throbbing sensation unlike anything I ever experienced. It seemed like that area of my body had a mind of it’s own and I didn’t understand what was happening. Then cramps came and went steadily and I felt like maybe I should go to the bathroom because I thought I might need to poo.

I won’t go into any grizzly details about what things looked like because I don’t feel this is the forum for that. Let’s just say, I saw everything. And when I did see it all, I wasn’t horrified, I was stricken with a deep, penetrating sadness that I can’t even describe with words. There really are no words to describe the miscarriage process, other than the emotional pain is far worse than the physical pain.

When I spoke to a nurse the following morning, she said what I had experienced were symptoms very similar to labor. Several blood draws later, my hCG levels are down to 190 and I’m relieved to say I’m on the road to recovery.

It wasn’t easy. I had some very dark days. Thank God for the support of my friends and family.

I’m sorry I do not have a happy ending to my story to share with you all and I hope that, in spite of my story, you do not lose hope.

I wasn’t pregnant for very long, but I loved my baby and the experience has made me more humbled, appreciative, and grateful for life. My pregnancy taught me some valuable lessons and as a result, I’ve grown. Be grateful for the time you have, despite the news you hear from your doctors, all the what-ifs, all the textbook standard stuff… Doctors are great but you have to be your own advocate and push for answers. Ask questions, do your research (don’t overload on this, it CAN make you nuts), listen to your instincts, and most importantly….

NEVER LOSE HOPE!
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156 Kym December 30, 2013 at 8:42 pm

Betsy, I am so sorry for your loss and I thank you for sharing with us. <3

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157 Jari December 29, 2013 at 4:12 pm

Omg u have me me so happy by reading this cause I’m going threw the same situation and I have decided not to give up thank u so much I’m so emotional and happy right now cause I feel like maybe I will have a miracle….

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158 Kym December 30, 2013 at 8:55 pm

Hi everyone – I would like to update you on my situation. My last post was on 12/19 and it was a confirmed blighted ovum. I decided to let things happen naturally and as of yesterday, nothing had happened. I had a follow up HCG test taken on Saturday, 12/28, and my levels came back at 11,776. I emailed my doctor and told him I would like to come in today to have a follow up u/s. If the sac was still empty, I wanted to go ahead and take medication to help pass the egg so my husband and I could start trying again. He agreed and told me to come in. When I got there the abdominal u/s, that maybe lasted all of 25 seconds, still showed a sac, but there was still nothing inside. We agreed that the medication would be the best thing, however, the doc wanted me to go to radiology to confirm (required) with their state of the art u/s machine, that he hadn’t missed something. A little confused (hadn’t they been telling me all along my sac was empty?!), I drove the 20 miles to the hospital and went to radiology. The technicial lady did an abdominal scan first, and took many many different photos of my uterus, however I was unable to see the screen and she was not telling me her findings. Once she was done with the abdominal scan, she let me know she would be doing a transvaginal. That u/s took 1.5 hours. This lady probed and prodded every inch of my uterus. And….wouldn’t you know – she found what she believes to be a tiny heartbeat. She had to bring in another tech to confirm her findings because she was a little confused at first. Some shots shown just an empty sac, while other shots when she moved the probe around, you could clearly see a little bean inside. The heartbeat is VERY low. They actually thought it could possibly be my heartbeat echoing on the scan, but, they did many many different shots and they could not conclusively say that I was not pregnant!!

Could this be a miracle? I was on cloud 9! The 1st technician was concerned about my dates (LMP) and what I should be (at this time I should be 8-9 weeks). The 2nd technician was like “Nope, that’s not right. Her dates are off. She’s just not that far along.” So, the results were sent to my doctor, who called me right away and said “there is definately something in there and we need to wait another week.” He apologized for prematurely diagnosing me with a missed abortion, but, the dates I had given him corresponding with my hcg levels were suggesting otherwise. Now with this super duper u/s and my levels at 11,776 – both radiology and my doctor are almost certain I am just about 5 weeks pregnant – which would make sense with the ultrasound findings today.

I am absolutely in shock right now. I was really expecting to go in today, and sadly miscarrying my baby tonight – but I am VERY happy we went for the confirmation ultrasound!

Now – to wait 1 more week to confirm the fetal pole has grown and the heartbeat is there! This whole ordeal has been agonizing. But today – today I have HOPE!

Will be sure to update next week!! **Sticky baby vibes!**

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159 Charise Rohm Nulsen December 31, 2013 at 10:46 am

Oh my goodness! Amazing! Sending you so many sticky baby vibes!!!

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160 Kim January 8, 2014 at 6:30 pm

Thanks Kym for your posts. I too am pregnant, with dates very similar to yours. I had an ultrasound on 12/18 that should a fetal pole measuring 6w1d. Went back 5 days later and the tech said ‘I’m sorry, but you’ll have a miscarriage, I don’t see a fetal heartbeat and the fetal pole is still measuring 6w1d”. So heartbreaking. I have a 4 year old girl and have had a miscarriage before and after that birth. We so wanted another baby. I cried and mourned for a few days and then found a site like this that stated many women have had misdiagnoised miscarriages. I was told my options at the dr’s office. I have chosen to wait. I’m still waiting…should be about 9 weeks now and I still have very sore breasts, tiredness, etc. Intuition tells me there’s a baby there….but I just don’t know. Part of me thinks if my numbers are droping and I’ll miscarry, then why don’t the symptoms decrease too? I will wait awhile longer and go back in for followup US. Doctor didn’t even want to do blood work on me and I was too upset to ask for it. I really feel like I’m in limbo.

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161 Kim January 6, 2014 at 9:33 am

Thanks Kym for your posts. I too am pregnant, with dates very similar to yours. I had an ultrasound on 12/18 that should a fetal pole measuring 6w1d. Went back 5 days later and the tech said ‘I’m sorry, but you’ll have a miscarriage, I don’t see a fetal heartbeat and the fetal pole is still measuring 6w1d”. So heartbreaking. I have a 4 year old girl and have had a miscarriage before and after that birth. We so wanted another baby. I cried and mourned for a few days and then found a site like this that stated many women have had misdiagnoised miscarriages. I was told my options at the dr’s office. I have chosen to wait. I’m still waiting…should be about 9 weeks now and I still have very sore breasts, tiredness, etc. Intuition tells me there’s a baby there….but I just don’t know. Part of me thinks if my numbers are droping and I’ll miscarry, then why don’t the symptoms decrease too? I will wait awhile longer and go back in for followup US. Doctor didn’t even want to do blood work on me and I was too upset to ask for it. I really feel like I’m in limbo.

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162 irene January 8, 2014 at 6:56 pm

@ I thought i knew mama
here i went to the doctor today and they are telling me im 7 or 8 weeks pregnant because my Hcg levels are so high i beleive im only 4 or 5 weeks. well i had an ultasound done today and they only found a sac… you gave me hope they took another hcg level im waiting for the results now im praying for the best as i still have all the symptoms.

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163 dorian parrish January 21, 2014 at 11:16 pm

im happy you went against their opinion im going through this right now hoping for the best while the doctor is aggravated about retesting i still feel the need to look at ever angle rather then rush to abort this is my first pregnancy and im supposed to be excited but when i visit the doctor all i feel is dread because they keep trying to talk me into medical miscarriage

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164 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 30, 2014 at 6:43 pm

Thinking of you and wishing you the best! Please keep us posted!

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165 crystal January 22, 2014 at 12:42 pm

can someone please give me some information… i went to a pregnancy care center & they told me i was 7 weeks pregnant but i knew i was like 3 weeks. they gave me a sonagram & then wanted me to come back in two weeks witch would have made me “9″ weeks , they didnt find no heart beat & she also told me no growth has been seen since the last time i got my sonagram! she sent me to the hospital & they did a sonagram & they said no heartbeat as well.. does this mean im misscarrieng ? or could a miracle happen? opinions are needed please & thanks!

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166 crystal January 22, 2014 at 12:45 pm

& forgot to mention, when i went to hospital they measured the baby at 7 weeks & 2 days…

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167 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 30, 2014 at 6:42 pm

If you believe your dates are correct, then stick with that you know. Don’t allow anyone else to tell you otherwise. There is no reason to rush any conclusions on this. Give it time. I’ll be hoping for the best for you!

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168 Dawn January 23, 2014 at 6:04 am

I just recently was told I am miscarrying. I went last wednesday for my first apt and leave a we around 5000, I went not a full 48 hours later but my next west my numbers were around 8800. So my dr called n said ur normal and good. I went yesterday for my appt. to see baby and I could immediately see her concern. She saw baby but no heartbeat. By the app that the dr used to calculate how far I was I was to be 7 weeks 6 days, the baby as only 6 weeks 1 day. Immediately they want to schedule a D&C. I just do t believe it. This is my second pregnancy, and I had no problems with my first. I am scheduled to have another ultrasound next week before I make my decision, if I miscarry naturally before the , at least i know.

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169 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 30, 2014 at 6:41 pm

Thinking of you, Dawn. Good for you for not making any decisions until you are absolutely sure. There is no reason to rush this at all.

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170 First Time Mommy January 28, 2014 at 8:17 pm

Thank you so much for your story. My husband and I went to the doctor today to do an ultrasound, we found out that we were 5wks and not 10wks and that they couldn’t see anything but the sac. They took my blood to test my HCG level. I believe that I am pregnant and I haven’t miscarried but then I started to go online to figure out the symptoms and how to know if your having a miscarriage and all the hope I had in being pregnant just went down. My husband believes and I believe after reading you story that we are going to hear great news on our next visit. Thank you so much for telling your story.

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171 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 30, 2014 at 6:39 pm

I’ll be thinking of you! Please keep us posted!

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172 Anne January 31, 2014 at 1:23 pm

Hello, I’m going through the same exact thing. No bleeding or cramps still nausus but my Dr.s are telling me to wait for a miscarriage! I’m glad you shared your story it gives me hope!!!

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173 Charise Rohm Nulsen January 31, 2014 at 2:51 pm

Good luck, Anne! Definitely do not give up hope!

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174 Maddie February 3, 2014 at 6:02 pm

I was diagnosed with a miscarriage at about 10 calendar weeks. The doctor kept trying to tell me that I was wrong about my dates of LMP and conception, but I wasn’t wrong. The fact that he treated me like I was stupid and didn’t have a clue about my own body and the one day my husband was home from a business trip really irritated me. Then the doctor was so cavalier about it all, said it was a miscarriage, nonviable, no heartbeat, and I needed to schedule a D&C as soon as possible. I had had a blighted ovum and even a miscarriage before, but this felt different. I just knew he was wrong. At the very least, I wanted the miscarriage to happen naturally so there would be no human interference with it. It never happened. Seven months later to the exact date after I was told I had a miscarriage, my son was born. To think that he was almost destroyed by meddling doctor wanting to do a D&C just makes me sick to my stomach. What upsets me more is the OB taking care of my two sisters kept telling them they had miscarried and doing D&C procedures on them, at least two times each. I just think doctors put too much stock in technology. Every pregnancy is different. Dates can be off. Babies develop at their own pace. Just leave them alone and let it happen naturally. It’s also possible the empty sac without a heartbeat could have been an underformed twin and the baby was behind it.

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175 carrie February 11, 2014 at 8:31 pm

I want to testify to everyone on how my husband and i got children after our 5years of marriage. we got married and we could not conceive a child we have been to several hospitals for checking and the doctors always say that we are okay that nothing is wrong with us, we have been hoping for a child, my husband was beginning to keep late night outside and pressure from the family for him to marry another wife and divorce me, i was always crying and weeping because i was loosing my marriage. so i visited my friend in Florida and she told me that she also have been through this same situation but she got her help of getting her own child from a great priest of fertility from Africa, so she told me that she will contact me to the priest and he will do some fertility spell for me to have my own child, i spent 4days with her in Florida and we both email the priest and he said i should bring all my information to him and he said in 2days after the spell will be completed. so i waited and i went back made love with my husband and i conceive. so i am very greatful to the priest for his help and miracle that help me save my marriage. please for same help, conatct him on fertilitytemple@yahoo.com

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176 Dominique March 3, 2014 at 8:24 pm

Thanks my cousin sent this to me because I am going thru the same thing. Now I have even more hope.

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177 Whisper Varlay March 11, 2014 at 8:26 pm

Thanks for this article. It made me feel more at ease. I am pregnant with my 3rd & got some devastating news today, but have a feeling they may be wrong.

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178 viri March 13, 2014 at 1:55 am

im glad you had a happy ending im 18 and im goinng throught the same they told me my babys heart sopped and that it was messuring small , since then they asked me if i wanted to do a d&c i been praying and hopinng my babys fine , i havent ask for extra ultrasounds or blood test ckua im juat to scared to hear what they got to say , even thou im thinking and hpping my babys fine i havent felt no pain or havent bleed , but yeah since.y pregnanc started i been having a brown discharged they said it was a blood clot i had ,and when went to my ultrasound thwy juat told me my babys heart stooped and disnt tell me nothing elsesonce then i havent been confortable and im juat keeping my faith and patients for my next appt , im jua having alot of hope and im to scared to have ny hopes dropped .
this story did made me feel a bit better and it was nice reading it have me a lil more hope thanks for sharing ♡

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179 miley March 15, 2014 at 1:02 am

I am 6 weeks and no gestational sac:/ hcg level went from 1100 to 1900 in 1 week. This site gives me hope!! I go in on Wednesday. .wish me luck and much needed miracle!

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180 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 15, 2014 at 2:06 pm

Good luck!! Don’t give up unless you are 110% sure you have to.

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181 sharon March 24, 2014 at 4:19 pm

Hi I am around 12 weeks I believe.. and I’m on my 3rd pregnancy first full term and 2nd was a miscarriage at 4months.. at 6weeks I had my first ultrasound and the doctor believed that my dates wasn’t adding up due to them only seeing and sac and yolk. But no heartbeat.. so she did the blood test which my levels went from 2100-3000 so she did an second ultrasound at almost 8 weeks and it was the same so she scheduled me for an d&c the same week but I refuse.. I still haven’t had any bleeding and no major pain just it feels like the baby grows Getting fat and all. I haven’t been back to the doctor but plan on goin in the next week to know if what I was expected is true.. if not I might just go with the d&c but I rather have it natural

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182 ExpectingAmiracle March 24, 2014 at 7:28 pm

The Dr. told me last Weds at 9 weeks. that I had a missed miscarraige. He said the the sac was empty the heartbeat was very minimal and there was hardly no growth. I’m not sure what he meant by no growth the ultra sound I had two 3 weeks prior showed a perfect hearbeat and the sack went from 6cm to 17cm. I’m not sure if that means much but it leaves me with some concern as to weather or not he is accurate so I chose not to have any surgical or medical treatment because I feel strongly that he is wrong. I decided to research to see if that is even possible and I found your story among many.

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183 Rebecca Mandato April 6, 2014 at 5:31 pm

Thank you for posting this!!! I was told 2 days ago that they couldn’t find a heartbeat, and am hoping beyond hope that they are wrong. I go back for another ultrasound in about 8 days. I didn’t know much about hcg testing. I was measured at 9 weeks the first ultrasound, but then the last ultrasound they did, they couldn’t find a heartbeat and measured the baby at 11 weeks, when I should have been at 13 weeks. But looking back at the first ultrasound, and comparing to other women’s first ultrasounds and scale models of what babies look like at different stages, the baby could be more of a 7 week in that first picture. They said I have an anterior (front) located placenta, so it makes for hard readings, couldn’t do the Doppler, the belly ultrasound, and the interior came back with no heartbeat, yet they want to take the baby from me. I am praying and trying to ready myself for whatever may be in my families future, this is the hardest thing I have had to deal with. Any time I feel anything weird I get scared, but then find out it is nothing. Sometimes I think I feel movements, smile, then second guess it that maybe it was something else. This is tearing me apart not knowing. I was going to get a 3d/4d ultrasound 2 days after the only second opinion ultrasound my insurance will let me have, for my own personal super 3rd opinion. I have never had a 3d ultrasound and hope it will be a good enough window to really see what is going on. I am not sure I can wait 8 days or 10 with this back and fourth hope and dread torment. I am thinking of going for the 3d/4d tomorrow to find out.

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184 Megan April 11, 2014 at 4:32 pm

This post is from a few years back. I’m not sure anyone will reply. Your story has given me hope that my doctor is wrong. I am supposed to be 9 weeks. I have had numerous appointment already. We had one when I was 7 weeks, we were able to see the little bean and see the flickering of a heartbeat. The doctor asked me to come back two weeks later. We went to the appointment excited to see the baby. And after he did a vaginal ultra sound he said he is 99% sure we are going to loose the baby. We didn’t see the baby and he in my opinion didn’t try very hard to find it. He schedule is for another u/s that afternoon where we were told she woul let us see the screen if she found anything. Pretty much we couldn’t ask any questions during the process which made it very awkward. It’s my body and our baby we should be able to see everything and be told everything. Not constantly leaving appointments confused. Every appointment questions were not answered he came in did his ultra sound and that was the appointment. At the 9 week appointment he said the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. So how does a baby be 7 weeks and have a heartbeat??! Nothing makes sense to me or seems to line up. I have had no spotting cramping or anything to lead me to belive that there is something wrong. I think my baby is fine. I think I should go to a different hospital and different doctor. I am supposed to see my doctor in two weeks again. I don’t know what to donor think. I hope someone sees this and can help in anyway.

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185 Charise Rohm Nulsen March 11, 2013 at 6:50 pm

Oh my goodness, Lindsay! I’m so thrilled for you! Thanks for keeping us updated, and best of luck with everything!

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186 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 17, 2013 at 11:26 am

I’m so sorry. What a roller coaster! I have read the same about tilted uteruses, and I think my own tilted uterus contributed to the misread of my initial ultrasound. I hope the private scan provides more answers! There’s no harm in waiting as long as you want until you believe you have a definitive answer one way or the other. Your body, your choice. I’ll be thinking of you.

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187 Charise Rohm Nulsen May 30, 2013 at 6:10 am

I’m so sorry, Nikki, but I’m glad to hear the procedure was as easy and painless as possible! I had a miscarriage before the birth of my son. We were pregnant with him four months after we started trying post-miscarriage. I know this probably doesn’t make any medical sense whatsoever, but I feel like sometimes, a miscarriage can be fate’s way of clearing out your reproductive system to create the best possible environment for your next pregnancy. Maybe that sounds crazy, but it seemed to be the case for me and all of my friends who experienced pregnancy loss. Keep believing, and I hope to hear back from you with happy news soon!

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