There are few better teachers than frustration

This is a guest post by Dave at Folkabout Baby.

When your baby first tries anything, whether it’s crawling, walking, or talking, they won’t be very good at it. It’s a given.


This, of course, is frustrating to them. They won’t be happy when they can’t do something, and their first reaction will be to cry about it.


But should you always intervene?


Now, I often advocate that you should always answer your child’s cries promptly, since you want them to build an understanding that the world is a positive, supportive place.


If your child is frustrated, though, it’s better to let them cry through it and try to figure it out.


When you leave them to get through the frustration on their own, you’re giving them an excellent chance to learn exactly what it is they’ve been struggling to do.


Let’s say your little one is trying to pull themselves up to standing next to the coffee table.


If you intervene, picking them up and putting them on their feet, you’re denying them the opportunity to learn how to do it on their own.


It’s difficult to listen to your child’s cries. I know from experience how hard it is, and it never gets easier.


It’s worth it, though, since your child is building confidence, independence, and skills.


Frustration might upset them, but it will also help them grow.


It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.



Dave Higgs-Vis is a father, a husband, a blogger, and a chef. If you enjoyed this post, you can find more like it at Folkabout Baby, a parenting blog dedicated to helping you to become a better parent and raise happier children. He’s also on Twitter as @FolkaboutBaby.

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  1. says

    I agree with everything you say but I suppose it also depends on the child. I made a point of letting my own children cry for a short time and they would nearly always stop on their own. If they didn’t then I quickly went to find out what was wrong. I also found that the sound of crying out of frustration was quite different from crying because they really needed attention.
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  2. says

    True, since they cannot communicate with us like adults we have to listen and observe with care. They don’t have the strength, on the other hand, they cannot tell us either so definitely it’ll frustrate them but we as matured people should take care of them instead of getting frustrated like them.

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