Talk to Me, Sweet Baby

This is a guest post from the inspiring Arpita of Up, Down & Natural. Enjoy!

P5060607 Yesterday, something absolutely wonderful happened to me.  I was at my Yoga For Fertility class, that I’ve mentioned here before.  It’s a very small intimate group, and we always start our practice by checking in with each other, and how the week has been, and where we are emotionally that week with our trying to conceive journey.  Yesterday one of my lovely new friends from the class announced that she was pregnant…  And I was genuinely happy for her!  I know to those who have not had to struggle with infertility this seems like a totally normal occurrence.  Who wouldn’t be happy to hear about a pregnancy?  However, for the last two years, I have not been able to be happy for someone when they announce a pregnancy.  At least not at first.  Of course, I would always come around… however whenever I’ve heard a pregnancy announcement the first reaction for the last two years, has been being thrown into at least a few hours, more often, a day or two of depression, anger and jealousy.   

There have been a few defining moments for me, through our trying to conceive journey, and yesterday was absolutely one of the magical ones I know I’ll never forget.  Yesterday was the day I realized the anger was gone.  I waited for the jealousy, and grief to sweep over me…  but it just didn’t.  Yesterday, I realized that I had finally let go of the anger, jealousy and resentment that has been holding me back and changed who I was before our struggle with infertility. 

I’ve been reflecting on why, and how this happened.  Why now, all of a sudden, after over two years of trying, and agonizing month after month.  After all, I am still not pregnant.  I am still just starting a brand new cycle, which is normally the hardest point for me.  What changed?  Then I realized, I had accepted where I am at this moment in my life.  For a long time, I thought the acceptance of my husband and I being child free meant that I was choosing to want to stay child free – and that stopped me.  I cannot imagine our life child free forever.  What I have realized, however, is that I do not need to want to stay child free forever in order to accept that this is where I am today.  At this moment.  Now.  And I am okay.  We are okay.   

I cannot imagine our life child free forever.  And like a ton of bricks, the realization hit me.  I cannot imagine our life child free forever… because we won’t be child free forever.  I know that, and I have known that all along but have been letting my anger and jealousy cloud that beautiful clarity.  

Meditation_Lady1One of the greatest things yoga for fertility has given me, is the ability to see that my baby is not some phantom illusive dream off in the future.  My baby has a spirit, and is here with me and my husband waiting for his or her time to join us in a divine form that we can recognize as life.  It was a concept that has been lingering in my mind, and had even been mentioned to me about a year ago by my close friend, Katina who recently started practicing as a Life Coach.  I wasn’t able to fully grasp on to the concept at that time, but yoga has opened my heart and my mind to this reality. 

As much as my husband and I have decided to be parents, our baby is choosing when to join our existence.  Through meditation, I had often spoken to
our baby before, and let him or her know that we are ready for his or her presence in our life.  What I had never asked, before starting my yoga for fertility, was if he or she wanted to say anything to us.  I had never asked if our baby was ready for us?   Now as I am guided through my yoga practice, I can ask our baby what he or she needs from my husband and I.  I am able to wait for the answers in my heart, and absorb what he or she is trying to teach us.  What I have realized through yoga is that there is no beginning and end of life.  I am already a mother.  Our baby knows me, and I know the softness of their soul, and the warmth of their heart.  I can feel it, and know it is real. 

In the deepest part of my soul, I know that one day very soon, I will feel our baby in my arms. 

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Arpita Blogs at Up, Down & Natural about trying to conceive both naturally and with medical help, the infertility experience, natural parenting and everything and anything in mommy-world including easy recipes and loads of Give Aways. As she and her husband enter their fourth year of Trying To Conceive their first, she is trying to embrace the lessons the universe still has to teach her. Sometimes the world of trying to live greener, and switching to chemical free organics is enough to turn you upside down. However, when these changes are made for our children, and the earth we bring them into, it only seems natural.

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  1. says

    Absolutely beautiful. It took us 4 years to get our son in our arms and I will admit I lost the hope in that final year. I love the sea that their spirit is with us waiting to join us at the devine time.

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